Roosh V’s Game

Daryush Valizadeh is an American of Iranian descent, and we hope you have been to his blog and to his sister-site Return of Kings.  He is one of the preeminent voices of the manosphere.

We highly recommend Game, his latest book.  Amazon has taken it offline, but you can easily buy it from Roosh’s own web-store.

We have followed Roosh for a long time.  He was an average frustrated chump like many of us in his early years, but took great strides in learning about gender dynamics, society and the skills required to navigate the modern sexual marketplace.  He is one of the very few men in manosphere who see getting laid not as the be-all and end-all of life, but as an important skill.  He is philosophical, well-read, attuned to the culture wars, and writes well!

We bought Game, the latest book by him, and are very impressed.  The prose is light and easy with just enough anecdotes thrown in to make you understand where he is coming from.

Many of the principles, beliefs and affirmations laid out in his book are extremely potent and valuable.  This is one of the best investments we can recommend for a man looking to understand the pitfalls of modern dating.  You will not be able to get every woman, but  through this book, you will upgrade your game and increase the probability of your success with women.

He has been vilified, and has suffered consequences for his outspokenness.  Many countries have curtailed his entry, and he is probably a marked man for SJWs and feminists.  He is also one of the very few men who have put their name on their writings, fearless of consequences and bad coverage by the left-liberal-media.

We may not agree with everything he says.  But he is far more thoughtful than your average PUA coach.  In his writings of last few years, he has expressed the world-weariness of a Casanova who has been there, done that, and is wondering whether the deeper meanings that were available to a man of yore – family, children, community – are still available to him.  Any woman he approaches for a long-term relationship will instantly know his “notoriety”.  He has nowhere to hide, and that is heroic.

We recommend his book to any man who wishes to gain from the experiences of a fellow-traveler in the wasteland of modern hook-up culture.  He has traveled far and wide, metaphorically and literally, and his travels and lessons thereof are not only interesting, they are valuable.

If A Woman Doesn’t Like You, You Are A Pervert

Women always complain how hard it is for them to exist in the world where they can’t be out without facing harassment in the form of hungry stares and catcalls from men. Men drooling over women like dogs, they would say, are sick members of the misogynistic society.

Let’s examine in this post 1) why men stare at women, and 2) how far women are justified in their claims of harassment of this form.

Why do men stare at women?

It is instructive to read Sexual Economics by Roy F. Baumeister to understand what follows in this post better.

In the sexual marketplace, women are the ones holding the resource called sex. The resource that men desire. Women trade sex for commitment from men (which comes with wealth sharing and/or protection from men).

That is economics applied to the realm of sexuality; and explained by Roy Baumeister as sexual economics.

Women are the “sellers”, and men are the “buyers” in the sexual marketplace. Moreover, it is a seller’s market. Meaning, there is always more demand than supply of sex, putting women (sellers) in a powerful bargaining position. Consequently, it is to women’s advantage to be passive in the sexual marketplace while men have to be super active.

If a woman actively seeks to trade her sexual resource, the value of her resource would go down. On the other hand, if more men want to “buy” her resource, she is said to be commanding high value.

In normal language, a woman who actively seeks men for sex is seen as low value woman. And if many men desire a woman, that woman is a high value woman.

Since there are always more men desiring sex and ready for it at a given point of time than women, it is to women’s advantage to stay passive and allow men to approach them. That is why men approach and women decide.

Make no mistake, women want to be approached by men. If men did not approach women, evolution would fail and humans would soon go extinct.

Now imagine yourself as a buyer. Buyers screen products on offer. The sellers, especially in the seller’s market, don’t need to look at or solicit the buyers, but the buyers would compulsively scrutinize all sellers and their products to get the best deal. They even window shop when they don’t want to buy. They may not be in a position to buy certain product that they desire, but they would look at it when it is on display. That is the buyer’s mind. And men are the buyers in the sexual marketplace.

That is essentially why men stare at women. It is not harassment from men’s point of view. It is the biological design of nature that keeps the species alive.

It is the same force that makes men stare at women makes them approach women. And women want to be stared at and be approached by men. If not, they wouldn’t be carrying themselves the way they do.

Why do you think they show so much skin wearing revealing clothes? And the use of cosmetics to make them look attractive is just a seller’s tactic to draw more potential buyers. Women spend so much on looking attractive that nearly half of their attractiveness is fake, a result of cosmetics.

So why do women rail against men staring at them and catcalling them?

Have you seen a bum being shooed away from a shopping mall? Now you would know why.

Women want attention from men. They want to be stared at and be approached by men. But not just any man. Women want the attention of the men who they perceive to be of high value. Their attention whoring is to compete for high value men in the sexual marketplace.

Women can’t admit this. Hence the hypocrisy and double standard.

If a woman is stared at or is approached by a low value man, she would cry harassment and call the man pervert. This is their strategy to keep the low value men away.

If a high value man stares at a woman, he is deemed interested. If a low value man stares at a woman, he is pervert.

That has been, and is, the evolutionarily successful strategy for women.

You may also like my companion post: Rape Through the Lenses of Sexual Economics.

This article was originally published on Max Newman’s blog. Follow Max Newman on Twitter.

Maxims, continued…

An earlier anthology.

(The following list is from a comment on Chateau Heartiste)

Maxims

Maxim #1a: Women desire men of better quality than themselves.

Maxim #2: Women are turned on by displays of male power.

Maxim #3: Whenever an attractive girl tells you she hates assholes, or describes her experience in the past dating assholes and claims to avoid them now, or recites a laundry list of asshole-y things guys do that she disapproves of, you can bet your weight in gold bricks that she wants you to be an asshole to her.

Maxim #4: Never trust a woman who is missing a sense of humor.

Maxim #6: Never. Make. It. Easy. For. A. Woman.

Maxim #7: Your girl will thank you for your steadfast devotion to your belief in yourself.

Maxim #8: Always assume she is a slut. It helps kick the legs out from under the pedestal you will be tempted to put her on, and it is more often than not true.

Maxim #9: The greater the age difference between the older man and the younger woman, the tighter his game will need to be, barring compensatory attributes (money).

Maxim #10: Marriage is a social mechanism designed to exchange sex for indentured servitude.

Maxim #11: Calling a girl out on her lie accomplishes nothing.

Maxim #12: When the love is gone, women can be as cold as if they had never known you.

Maxim #13: When in doubt, game.

Maxim #14: Female cultural equality = male dating inequality. Female cultural inequality = male dating equality. Human nature says that you can‘t have it both ways.

Maxim #15: Be narcissistic. There is no greater divergence than that between a woman’s stated disapproval of male narcissism and the rapidity with which she jumps into bed with a male narcissist.

Maxim #16: The two fundamental propositions are male choosiness and female abundance. All alpha males have these two mindsets in common. Corollary: Male choosiness and female abundance do not necessarily have to be true for the strategy of behaving as if they are true to be effective at seduction.

Maxim #17: The alpha male thinks and acts more like a woman than a man in matters of seduction. He understands his adversary’s psychology, and uses it to allay her defenses.

Maxim #18: Never talk about getting into a relationship even if she says that’s what she’s looking for.

Maxim #19: Withholding sex is the tactic of a woman who has already lost. It is mutually assured destruction.

Maxim #20: If a woman says the word “sex” in conversation with you or about you, no matter the context, it means she’s thinking about having sex with you.

Maxim #21: Women are more pliable in the company of competing women.

Maxim #22: You have to make marriage an attractive alternative for MEN — not women — if you want the institution to thrive.

Maxim #23: The vagina tingle is the principal moral code to which women subscribe. All other moral considerations are secondary.

Maxim #24: When in doubt, ask yourself “WWJD?” What Would a Jerk Do? Then do that.

Maxim #25: NO girl wants to be thought she isn’t a special little snowflake.

Maxim #26: Never tell a girl how much you make, even if you’re loaded. In case of marriage, keep separate accounts.

Maxim #27: If you want a wife, stay clear of investing much in girls who constantly remind you they like to have “fun, fun, fun” and “get bored easily”.

Maxim #28: The more experience you have with women, the more you’ll know which women have experience with men: It is the inexperienced beta male who is most often in the dark about a woman’s sexual history and liable to be victimized by it.

Maxim #29: Xenophobia is good for diversity.

Maxim #30: Women will not hold it against you for trying to get into their panties on the first night. In fact, they will respect you more for your boldness and willingness to follow your manly desires.

Maxim #31: If you plan on cheating and subsequently get caught, act like a total dick who did nothing wrong. Your girlfriend will then wonder if it’s something she did.

Maxim #32: Commanding women to do your bidding will give you a bigger beta margin of error when needed.

Maxim #33: Women need to test men for their grace under pressure.

Maxim #34: If she’s hot, why would she bother with online dating?

Maxim #35: Never trust a woman’s advice on how to please women. Her advice is designed for alpha men she already finds attractive and from whom she seeks signals of attainability and commitment.

Maxim #36: A woman’s sex and relationship advice isn’t meant to help men; it’s meant to distract men from what really works to attract women.

Maxim #37: High IQ is no inoculation against beta delusion. If anything, high IQ obstructs clear thinking about women’s nature.

Maxim #38: The longer you are away from seducing new women, the harder it will be to seduce one when you want.

Maxim #39: The worst thing to happen to women in America was women’s suffrage.

Maxim #40: Men are becoming ever bigger betas in their dealings with women. Men are losing the leverage to shape and push women’s child-like and selfishly amoral political opinions in logical, just and long-term oriented directions.

Maxim #41: The definition of Inner Game: Hit on every woman who excites you. Make life uncomfortable for them, not yourself.

Maxim # 42: When a girl signals that she doesn’t enjoy blowjobs or sex, do not spend one second more with her. Your libido is too important to gamble on such a girl.

Maxim #43: In their sexual primes women’s attraction for assholes is at its strongest. You can catch a lot of hungry flies with honey, but shit attracts the most well-fed flies.

Maxim #44: If you get sexually rejected, don’t admit it to yourself, and especially don’t admit it to the girl.

Maxim #45: Women will screech louder the closer your words get to damaging or exposing vulnerabilities in their sexual market value.

Maxim #46: Whenever you hear or read the words “gender”, “gendered”, “gendered norm”, “subtle gender bias”, or “increasingly egalitarian, yet there remains…” know that you are dealing with a leftwing moonbat, blank-slate believing fruitcake who cannot deal with the fact that men and women are biologically different from birth.

Maxim #47: Awareness of a woman’s games is a precision-guided weapon in a man’s arsenal of seduction.

Maxim #48: Respect the momentum.

Maxim #49: The rare older woman-younger man pairing is like a lab experiment gone wrong. It violates the natural order of things, and leaves its practitioners emotionally twisted and in a constant mental race to hyper-rationalize their sub-par mate choice.

Maxim #50: Marriage is no escape from the sexual market and the possibility that you may be outbid by a competitor with higher value.

Maxim #51: For most women, five minutes of alpha is worth five years of beta.

Maxim #52: Underneath the veneer of civilized discourse we act in ways that are brazenly self-interested in the short term.

Maxim #53: All kneel before the god of biomechanics, by sword or by surrender.

Maxim #54: When a woman has incentive to lie, she will choose lying over honesty EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Maxim #55: Run for your Life Shit Tests:
BEWARE the classic gun-to-the-head marriage pressure administered by your typical non-descript, rudderless late 20’s/early 30’s woman.
When a woman pressures you mercilessly to marry her, bullying to the point of threatening a break up – this is the shit test of ALL shit tests. Treat it as such – If you fail this shit test, you are RUINED. FOR. LIFE.

Maxim #60: Waving a roll of benjamins at a woman will not give her tingles. In fact, it will often do the opposite.

Maxim #73: When a girl emphatically insists she is so over you, she’s never been more into you.

Maxim #21: Betas pay, alphas split, super alphas profit.

Maxim #39: A woman’s standards are like a house of cards: kick out one from the bottom and the whole edifice crashes down.

Maxim #85: As women’s bodies age and weaken, their rationalization hamsters grow bigger and stronger. Eventually, the hamster is powerful enough to take control of all higher order consciousness.

Maxim #87: The more expensive or thoughtful the gift you give a girl, the greater the risk that she will subconsciously begin to think she is too good for you.

Corollary to Maxim #87: If you are dating out of your league, or you are dating a young hot babe in her prime, you should do the exact opposite of what everyone will tell you to do — *don’t* buy her expensive gifts. Be particularly wary of advice from women. No woman in the world is capable of thinking clearly or impartially on the matter of “acceptable” levels of male provisioning. Even old, fat hausfrau hogs will expect mountains of jewels in offerings from men.

Maxim #105: Where there’s incentive, there are lies.

Maxim #109: Consensual polyamory is a contrived hookup service for undesirable sexual market rejects.

Maxim #198: Use of the word “disenfranchised” or other similar nomenclature of deconstructivist post-modern pablum automatically discredits an argument for serious consideration.

Maxim #200: Chicks dig guys willing to risk an early, gruesome death. Expendability is a DHV.

Working Men are Slaves, Working Women are Independent

When women say that they want to work to be independent, therein lies a difference between men’s and women’s positions in the modern society. Historically, men have been working because the society has been using them as providers and protectors, not because they wanted to be independent. The thought of being independent is fundamentally detrimental to the society’s interests.

Men work to provide for their dependents, which adds value to the society. Women want to work to be independent, which effectively negates the value. Unlike men, women want to work for themselves. After all, that’s what independence means. Most of the working and “independent” women declare shopping as their favorite hobby. That explains where their income goes. Men never said they were independent, because they never were. Nor have they cried for independence.

Most men hate their work, but do they have a choice? Who will run the society if they stopped working? One might ask oneself, who will provide for their family if men decided to be independent? If one’s answer is women, one could not be more wrong. A women would not even marry and form a family with a man who did not work to begin with. We don’t even need studies to prove this, just common sense and looking around. Thus, men don’t work because they want to be independent, they work because they have no choice.

A woman who is not interested in making a home, taking care of children, and maintaining communal ties is as useless to the society as a man who does not want to work.

How gender roles are formed

There are two important systems that shoulder every society. Economy and family. If either of the two is inexistent or fails, the society would not develop to begin with or collapse. In most basic terms, economy takes care of feeding people, and family system is necessary to increase/maintain the population. For a society to thrive the two systems must work in tandem. If economy collapses people would go hungry. In modern times it translates into difficulty in fulfilling the basic needs. If family system collapses it means reduction in marriage and birthrate and decline in population, along with loss of meaning in life and ennui in modern times.

It was not tyranny of men who chose women for the role of homemaker while choosing more “independent” life for themselves. It was so arranged because that’s what both men and women are naturally suited for. In the primitive stages of society when there were no desk jobs available and the environment was fraught with dangers, women could not afford to take on the role of provider and protector. They were best suited for domestic tasks while men worked with dangers of the environment to feed and protect their women and children. Men brought food, women prepared and served it to the family. Men built houses, women kept them in order and made them homes. Men fought wars to protect their community, women oiled communal ties. Men carried out the large scale tasks because they are endowed with the required fortitude and more strength than women. Women carried out the relatively smaller scale tasks, because that’s what they are best endowed for.

Men built and ran economies,  and women built and ran families. None of the genders chose their respective tasks, it just happened with nature’s arrangement based on respective strengths of the two sexes. Societies with any other arrangement would have perished, because as mentioned above for any society to thrive the economy and family system must work in tandem, and this was the only arrangement conducive to that end.

Once the wheels of the society are set in motion in direction of growth with a given arrangement, any deviation generates negative payoffs (in the form of problems) that create pressures for the deviating agents to re-align their paths to the mutual interests of the society. That’s why we say that the society pressurized women to stick to their original role to participate in the family system, and still pressurizes men to work to participate in the economy.

The title of this article says working men are slaves. Similarly, women in their traditional role must also feel the same way, that they are domestic slaves. Let me be clear, I used this terminology only to make women understand that if they feel like slaves confined to domestic tasks, the world is not bed of roses for men either.

This so called slavery for men and women is not bad. It is what makes the society and all the comforts that we enjoy possible. Real independence is not what it seems like. In jungle is one really independent, in the society one has to fit into the designed roles. The protagonist of the film Into the Wild (based on a true story) breaks free from the society to live independently into the wild. He is barely able to feed himself and is killed by the vagaries of nature. That is what real independence is like.

Women who abandon their traditional role in the society are narcissists in the same way men who want to loaf without working are. Both are a cost to the society.

The equality movement has done great disservice to the society by making women think that they were being oppressed and made slaves of by men who enjoyed all independence. It has made women dissatisfied with their role which is essential for the society to sustain itself.

Men and women in their traditional roles are like right and left wheels of the cart. The society can not run with two right wheels or two left wheels alone. We did not need women to take over men’s roles while abandoning their own.

As more women are “liberated”, families are disappearing. White Western women are among the most liberated in the world, and white population in the West is on decline. This heralds the collapse of human civilization.

This article was originally published on Max Newman’s blog. Follow Max Newman on Twitter.

Most men will never experience being loved

The attention and attraction that a woman, even an ugly one, can command in her youth and till her late 30s is orders of magnitude more than what is the fate of most men at any age.

Most men will never experience being wooed and seduced by a woman.

Most men will never experience a woman buying them meals and gifts.

Most men will never experience a woman pining for them and wanting to take risks for them.

Most men will never experience a woman trying to make them happy and trying to make them laugh.

Most men will never experience being loved by a woman.

Women are desired by men by virtue of their being women.  Men, though, need to have extreme good looks or attain power, status and wealth, or be greatly skilled at seduction, to be desired by women.

Sexual desire of men is much higher than that of women.  Men want a woman more urgently than women seek a man.  This imbalance of desire is the fundamental basis of the economics of seduction in which a man spends time, money and effort, and the woman is the beneficiary.  The man is seeking sexual union with the woman, and since the woman’s sexual desire is weaker, she can continue to string him along by dangling the carrot of eventual gratification.

A woman might eventually settle for an average or below-average man, but she will fall in love only with a man who gives her the “tingles”:  a man usually in the top 30%.  As an illustration, in a group of ten men and ten women, nine of these men will feel some desire for every  woman out of the ten.  But only 2 or 3 men will be the object of desire of at least one woman.  Seven out of those ten men will not be found lovable by even a single woman.

As a general principle, women are hypergamous and they seek a man high in status.  Higher in status to them, and higher in status to the other men in the arena.

In the sexual marketplace, men are the marketers, and women are the buyers.

Whenever a man tries to woo a woman, remember that she is comparing him to:

1. Her past lovers
2. The men currently in her field of vision and in her mental space
3. Her boss, her doctor, and her higher-earning co-workers
4. The characters she remembers from TV and the movies
5. The men her friends are engaged with
6. The man that she thinks she “deserves”

Most men will therefore just be ignored by a woman.  They stand almost no chance because most men will come up short, one way or the other, when compared to all these categories of men that she is comparing him with.

That is one reason why women constantly complain: “Where have all the good men gone?”  The problem is the unrealistic expectations these women have.  Normal, sane, moderately attractive, moderately accomplished men are all around these women.  But these men are invisible to them since the women are seeking someone better than what’s available.  They are all seeking a man in the top 20 or 30%.

A man has to steel himself against the constant rejection, indifference, contempt and friend-zoning by women.  While the society constantly bolsters women’s egos, it beats down men.  That is why a man needs to learn game.

Game is the theory and practice of seduction.  Yes, the man must continue to better himself and ultimately try and become part of the 20%, but he must also learn the skills and psychological tools to deal with women and their expectations and mentality.  There are many men who are wealthy, educated, tall and whatnot, but they still face constant rejection from women.  It is because they are bad at game.

To understand what we are trying to say about hypergamy and the 70%-30% split, and its effects on marriage and dating, we recommend this video:

Women complain about unwanted male attention but what they are saying is that they only want the attention of men that they find attractive.  Their complaining is valid, but it is like complaining against too much marketing directed at oneself.  One must acknowledge that all this attention indicates that one is a desirable and attractive prospect for all the marketers.  And as a human being, one must acknowledge that these pleading men are in a less privileged place than the picky woman.

Men, on the other hand, validly complain about rejection and the huge efforts they have to spend to woo a woman.  Most men don’t even try because they know, or are scared, they will fail.  Desperate men might act awkwardly and spoil their chances even more.  Extremely frustrated men will veer into antisocial or criminal behavior.

Men experience love and life in a way that is vastly different than women.

Some Red Pill Titans

It is not easy these days to find well-known people who are not interested in political correctness and are instead unapologetic truth tellers.  Those who are not interested in winning over the media, the brainwashed masses, and are willing to risk controversy and notoriety.

For the benefit of our readers, here are a few well-known men who we believe are either overtly or covertly red-pill:

Scott Adams: The famous creator of the Dilbert cartoon strip, and an acclaimed writer.  We highly recommend his blog, and his book How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big.

Donald J Trump: A real-estate businessman currently in the race to become the next President of the United States.  His book, The Art of the Deal, is a classic.

Nassim Nicholas Taleb: A philosopher and an economist.  He writes, and he dead-lifts.  He has written many books, but an anthology of his parables is highly recommended: The Bed of Procrustes.

Bill Burr: A famous stand-up comedian and media personality.

In India, well-known redpillers are very rare, because of lack of freedom of speech and repressive laws.  And because most public personalities in India have now sold out to the market.  But these men and women from India come close to being recommended by us:

Madhu Kishwar: A realist and an ex-feminist who disagrees with her radical feminist colleagues.

V S Naipaul: He writes about India without eulogizing its supposed heroes.  He has Indian ancestry, though he is from Trinidad and Tobago.

Justice Shiv Narain Dhingra: A famous judge of the Delhi High Court who was well-known to have taken on corrupt woman advocates, and who criticized the biased misandrist laws.  Though he has also been known to give many anti-male judgments.

Do let us know if you know of any other well-known redpillers, either in India or in the West.

Only Men can Love

What is the nature of human sexuality?

In elementary terms, there are two stages to reproduction:

• Stage One (Up till Conception): The human female produces expensive eggs while sperm is cheap and plentiful.  A man needs a woman during conception and woos her to have sex with him.
• Stage Two (After Conception): The human foetus and infant requires provisions and shelter for a couple of decades and needs a stable male provider and defender.

We can also say that Love is the desire to want to be with one’s beloved for a long time, as contrasted with passion which is to want to have sex with one’s object of lust.

Now given these assumptions (which are quite commonly accepted), which of the two genders in humanity is logically required to be more capable of love and be more loving?

Answer: The male.

Why?

A woman needs a man to love her so that he feels bonded to her and doesn’t leave her.  She doesn’t need to love him because she anyway wouldn’t want to leave him due to practical reasons.

Let us explain in detail.

She only needs to be seduced by him for stage one.  She needs to seduce him for stage two.

But stage one is short and stage two is orders of magnitude longer.

Which stage requires love, and which requires passion?  Obviously, being longer, stage two requires love.

Which gender is the one seduced in stage two?  Obviously the male.  The male does not need the female in stage two, the female needs him.  If he seduces her and makes her fall in love with him and then leaves her without being in love himself, stage two will fail.  The success of stage two is if she makes him fall in love with him and ensures he remains attached to her and doesn’t leave her.

Ideally, both are in love with each other.  But nature does not conform to our ideas of justice or our ideals.  In nature, a man needs to love a woman, while a woman only needs to make him fall in love with her.

This dichotomy is ignored by people who only look at stage one.  In stage one, the man is the one seducing the woman but that seduction is aimed toward the act of conception, not toward the act of becoming a provider.

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On a side note, society, throughout history, has created various impediments for a man not to be reckless and abandon a woman once stage one was complete.  But similarly, it had created various impediments to a woman not to be reckless in stage one.

In the modern world, women are free to be reckless in stage one.  After all, it is a short-term commitment and no deep feelings are being asked for.  (In fact, one of the major reasons beta men are abhorred and rejected by modern women is that beta men start loving the women too soon, when all these women need is sex and entertainment!).  But men are more than ever caged to women in stage two.  Try to divorce a modern woman, and face the consequences.

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Coming back to the topic at hand, women are designed by nature to:

1. Be seduced for a short time (Fall in passion)
2. Make her man want to be with her for a long time (Inspire Love)

Men are designed by nature to:

1. Seduce a woman for a short time (Inspire passion)
2. Want to be with her (or at least commit to being with her) for a long time (Fall in Love)

Only a man feels love.  A woman feels only passion.  It is one of the greatest lies in the world that women only want sex once they feel a deep emotional connection.  Yes, seduction is emotional.  But the seduction leading to sex is nothing deep or profound, as any man with game can attest.  It takes a few jokes, a dance, a couple of witty remarks, a drink or two, and some display of high value.  It is the seduction leading to marriage that is far more profound.  And for that, the man is the one being seduced.

The convention of the man getting on his knees and asking his fiancee to marry him is a laughable modern invention which completely ignores the dynamic of what is going on.  This gesture was meaningful only when sex happened after the wedding.  The man is asking to marry his fiancee because though he only wanted to have sex with her at first, as of now he has been thoroughly seduced by her for the long term.  He is willing to commit for the rest of his life to have sex with her.  He is not thinking straight anymore.  He is in love.  The man has been seduced, and he has been made to believe that he would be so lucky to have her.  As we all know, after conception, she needs him.  He doesn’t need her.

It is he who loves her.  If love is a delusion, he is the one in delusion.  His brain is in a fog.  The woman is fully aware of what’s going on.

Beware of loving a woman too soon, or of expressing your love.  Because then she no longer needs to seduce you into being her lover.  Make her invest in you.  Only then is she worth your investment.

On the concept of AWALT

In the manosphere, AWALT stands for “All Women Are Like That.”  It means that women share some personality traits which one would be unwise to ignore.  The most important of these traits are:

• Hypergamy: The desire to mate with the alpha male or one who displays the appearance of an alpha male, even if he won’t commit to her.
• Duplicity: To lie about her sexual past; to lie about the nature of her attraction; to want to settle down with a man she is not attracted to but to not want to admit that.
• Opportunism: That despite the myth that women are the more empathetic and compassionate gender, it is not true and in fact they have a lower sense of honor and integrity.  For women, only the present feelings are real and they might even kill their own children in a fit of anger.

Now we are not saying that women are evil.  They are just following their biological imperative.  Men also have many traits, honed through evolution, which women talk about with condescension and sarcasm.

Is it true that all women are like that?  The answer is slightly complex.

Women fall somewhere on the spectrum of having more or less of these traits.  Most beta men, however, regard their object of love as an angel who is incapable of having any of these traits.  When in love, beta men write poems about their women (BTW, have you noticed that love poetry is almost always authored by males?), eulogize them and seem to worhsip the very ground on which their women walk.

And then when their woman is revealed to be a crafty creature and not an angel, they are horrified and fall into disillusionment and depression.

The concept of AWALT is useful to shield these idiots from their own pedestalization of women.  Yes, Shivani, who has been brought up in a tradiitional home, is fond of cooking and doesn’t use Facebook, might be nicer than Sukanya who is a party animal with tattoos and who can guzzle a gallon of beer in one evening.  But Shivani is a woman too, and given the right circumstances will become as much a narcissist and opportunist slut as Sukanya.

Sukanya wasn’t born an evil person, and neither was Shivani born a saint.  But from what we know of human psychology, as a woman they both had a hypergamous instinct which manifests in today’s world as AF/BB (Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks).  Sukanya had many opportunities to indulge in that instinct, while Shivani lived in a sheltered environment where her instincts were kept under check.

But transfer Shivani to a large urban city, show her the heady pleasures of having men buy her drinks and asking her to dance and liking her mundane pictures on Facebook, and see what happens.

Not all women are the SAME, but all women are LIKE that.  To ignore the cunning aspects of female nature and to worship it is a BIG mistake.

A man must always be on guard with a woman.  She may be nicer than average, or she may be worse than average, but she is a woman who, just like having tits and ass, has certain psychological features which may be less or more manifest than other women.

AWALT is a call to understand female nature and to behave defensively.  It may mean a less delusional and idealistic love once you realize the truth of female nature, but that is the price of swallowing the red pill.

Ten Consequences of Women’s Financial Independence

Men need women.  Women (at least in western societies) no longer need men.  This imbalance has many interesting consequences:

1. Women see men as entertainment.  Men invest far more in entertaining women than in other worthwhile pursuits which traditionally would have guaranteed them a good woman.  Bars, fine dining, high-end clubs, high-end stores, expensive jewelry, fashion, cosmetics are all consumed by women but mostly paid for by men to woo the women.  Wooing a modern woman is becoming really, really expensive.
2.  For men to who this cost is too high and unfair, they drop out from the sexual marketplace and get their satisfaction from pornography and masturbation.  This was true even historically, but the epidemic of pornography indicates a severe economic crisis in sexuality.  Most men can no longer afford bangable women.
3. Women no longer need a provider man, because the modern state has ensured that even if a woman makes mistakes, a man, or society as a collective, will come to her rescue.  The modern state is the ultimate white knight.
4. Men still need sex and validation, however.  But since a working woman has taken the negotiating card away from her man, a man is at the mercy of his girlfriend or wife.  She can withhold sex.  A man cannot withhold provisions (that is called cruelty).  She can threaten to quit the marriage and take half his wealth.  He cannot threaten to quit the marriage and be guaranteed her sexual availability for 26 weeks every year.
5. Women are being groomed not for homemaking but for becoming compettive professionals.  Men are not attracted to such women as long-term partners, though they may pay lip-service to liberal ideals.  Long-term relationships have a bleak future.
6. Women entering the workforce increase the supply pool of employees, and drive wages lower.  Men can no longer afford to provide for their families with the mom staying at home.  It wasn’t always this way.
7. Women spending most of their days outside home has catastrophic consequences for the future of the children and of the family unit.  For a modern urban family, since the mother is no longer willing to be at home, having a kid is an expensive proposition.  Modern urban women are not willing to have many kids.  Neither are modern urban men, because it is just too expensive.
8. Men, not being motivated to be, or rewarded for being, providers, have no incentive to achieve anything worthwhile for themselves or for society.  They are happy playing video games, going to comic conventions, and watching increasingly fetishized porn.
9. There is an epidemic of sexual confusion, promiscuity and divorces.  When marriage is based on “desire” and “tingles” but not on “need” or family honor, the foundation is shaky.
10. Women are voting, earning, and moreover, are spending most of the money.  And therefore they need to be wooed by the media and the politicians.  The media and the political discourse is becoming feminized, anti-masculine and welfare-socialist.  “Rape-culture”, “Patriarchy”, “War on women” and related nonsense is becoming a cacophony when in reality the social and economic conditions have always been advantageous for women, and never more so than in the present times.

 

Ten Fashion Bloopers to Avoid for Indian Men

1. The Backpack.  Ditch the backpack except when backpacking.  Carry your laptop etc. in a shoulder bag, preferably made of leather.

   

2. Sneakers.  Ditch the sneakers except when taking part in a fitness activity.  Wear leather or suede or desert boots or, in summers, loafers or good-looking flip-flops.

   

3. Canvas or Leather or Faux leather sandals.  And even more so: Sandals with socks.  They look cheap and ugly.  NRIs are somehow big fans of them.  Avoid them at all costs.

   

4. Light colored jeans, especially the ones with a color gradient or some pattern.  They very rarely look good.  Buy solid dark colored ones (indigo, dark gray) instead.

   

5. Not getting a haircut when it’s time.  Having overgrown hair and facial hair tells everybody that you don’t care about your appearance.  And trim your nose and chest hair.

   

6. Wearing a suit jacket with sleeves which are too long, and a suit pant which has more than one “break”.

   

7. Wearing a shirt which “blouses” over your body.  Either buy a “tailored-fit” or “slim-fit” shirt (depending on your body-type), or get the shirt tailored.  In India it shouldn’t cost more than a hundred rupees to get the shirt altered.

   

8. Wearing square-toe leather shoes, or thin-edge ones.  The Oxfords are the way to go.  And they don’t cost much more than these horrendous designs.
   
9. Wearing un-ironed shirts or trousers/jeans.  Learn how to properly iron a dress shirt and pants.  There are umpteen youtube videos on these.
   
10. Wearing a belt which is too long and whose edge hangs on the side.  A properly-sized belt should only extend 3-4 inches beyond the buckle.  You can cut and size the belt yourself.