Alpha or Beta?

A friend sent to me this picture and asked if I see an alpha or beta male in it.

My verdict: Beta.

It was proven later that the guy is a beta male, and I will share the proof at the end of this post. First, my analysis of the picture and how I figured he is beta.

This also serves as a lesson for men on how not to pose for a picture.

• Women is leaning away from him
• Woman’s legs position also shows she’s distancing herself
• Her hand should be placed on him, instead it is in a position as if she is repelled by him
• Good thing she is not looking in the camera, or it would have been this Trump Jr situation; but that doesn’t make it good for him
• He is looking down instead of in to the camera
• His body is turned towards her which is a mistake. He should be front facing
• His front hand should have been in the pocket (thumb out) and the back hand visibly on the woman’s back

I see a beta lost in love with the woman who can’t wait to get away from him.

Now my friend shares more pictures of the guy, one where he’s wearing Soy glasses, and in another… well, it screams for itself. Alphas don’t hurt in “love”.

Do we need more proof of his betaness?

Alpha and Soy

A friend of mine shared this photo with me and asked me to identify the alpha man in it. We often share random photos of men and play Spot the Alpha game.

This is an interesting photo in that there is likely no alpha male in it, and yet it gives rise to this post.

Since my friend asked me to spot the alpha, I knew there had to be a man in the photo that he had in mind as the alpha.

So I gave my answer: First from the left. And definitely not one of those who are on their knees! (Lesson: An alpha man can’t be on his knees. That’s a posture of subjugation.) I gave this answer because I knew that’s the man he must have in his mind.

Why, you ask? Because he doesn’t seem to be excited to be photographed. He is indifferent. Alphas don’t get excited by things that excite non-alphas and betas. They have high self-worth and self-confidence, hence an external stimulus like attention won’t sway their mood.

But then I added: To be precise, none of the men in the photo are likely alphas. If the aforementioned man was standing near the centre with everyone else in the same position, he would undoubtedly be the alpha of the peck. In this photo, however, what would otherwise give the man the alpha vibe is negated by the fact that he is standing outside of the group of people who are together. He is almost not part of the picture.

The alpha would be the one others would flock around. He would have indifferent demeanor in that he would not be all excited and smiley, but that can’t be viewed in isolation. The alpha’s power would show through others’ demeanor around and towards him.

If that man was in a diffetent photo with another man, and had the same posture and indifferent expression, he would probably still pass off as alpha. Having only two men in a photo changes the context. See the example below:

In a photo like the above, it is clear who is happy be photographed with the other. The one who smiles or looks excited shows to be of low value in comparison to the one who looks composed or indifferent.

On a side note, even though the first photo was a fail for Spot the Alpha game, it inadvertently is a good sample for Spot the Soyboy.

Any guess?

Answer: The second from left on his knees. He has the classic Soy face.

Not to mention most of them in the first photo and the smiley man in the second are also probably soy.

Joint Family, Givers And Takers

Joint families are common in Indian societies. While I see many a benefit of joint family system, I also see the perils that lead to dysfunction in families.

Greatest of the perils in my observation and experience, especially in middle class joint families, is free-rider problem, which is the focus of this post.

Joint family: A family where adult siblings live together along with their parents in one house sharing a kitchen and home finances.

There are broadly two types of MEN who live in joint family –

Givers

• They are living in joint family because they feel obliged to serve and provide for the family
• They bring more value and resources to the family than they consume
• They are often bogged down by responsibilities, in that they may have potential to achieve more, greater things in life, but due to the weight of responsibilities they can’t live to their fullest potential
• If they were left independent their lives would likely improve
• They are burden-bearers

Takers

• They are living in joint family mainly because they are not capable of surviving independently (they may or may not feel obliged to serve)
• They bring less or no value and resources to the family and consume more
• They have little potential other than what they gain by exposure to family responsibilities, their stability may be because of living in the family
• If they were left independent, their lives would likely deteriorate
• They are burdens

Note that the above classification only covers men of earning age, excepting women and aged dependents. As you can see, the way givers and takers are constituted is in stark contrast with each other.

If you are an adult man living in a joint family you might want to consider which one are you, a giver, or a taker?

Do you contribute equally to home finances as the other earning member, or contribute in proportion to your income? If you earn less and hence contribute less, that may not necessarily make you a taker. But how would you figure out if you are a burden or a burden-bearer?

Are you Giver or Taker?

Here’s how you should figure out if you are contributing enough to the family or are only taking from them, thus being a burden.

Imagine independent survival. Think that you don’t have a family house to live in, nor have any family member to support you financially. You’re completely alone and independent in the world as far as acquiring food, clothing and shelter is concerned.

In that case, how well are you able to survive? Or, would you be able to survive at all? If you are not able to survive, or would survive but not with as many material comforts as you enjoy with family, then that means you are now a burden on the family.

Let me help you ascertain your survival cost:

Your main survival costs consist of food, clothing and shelter.

Consider the quality and quantity of food you consume while living with family, the clothes you can afford to wear and the facilities you enjoy in the house.

Now think about how much money it would take to enjoy the same food, afford the same clothes, and live in the similar house (with all its comforts and facilities). For ascertaining the cost of shelter you would take into account the rent in your area, of the house the size of your portion in the family house.

Adding up these three costs – of food, clothing and shelter – will give you the cost of independent survival (COIS).

Now ask yourself this: Is your income more or less than your COIS? If your income is less than your COIS, then logic says someone else in the family is paying (or has paid, in case of ancestral house) for the life you are living in the joint family.

You’re a burden to the extent your contribution to the family is less than your COIS. Your COIS, for example, is Rs. 10,000/month, and your contribution to the family is Rs. 4,000/month, then you are a burden worth Rs. 6,000 which someone else in the family is bearing.

If your income is more than your COIS, are you contributing to the family more than COIS? If not, then again you are a burden.

How much should be a Man’s contribution to family?

If you are an adult man, first of all your income must be more than your COIS for you to not be considered a failure. Secondly, if you are an adult man with income greater than COIS living in joint family, you must give at the very least equivalent to your COIS, and ideally more than that for there may be non-contributing dependents in the family.

A family in which financial and other responsibilities are disproportionately shared by its men is not a healthy family, as there would be incentives for conflicts and severe dysfunction.

If you are taker in a joint family, you should start working on bringing more value to the family. Or think of going independent and see what you can make of your life. If you come to like independence better, good for you. But don’t continue being a burden. That’s not the way of men.

And if you are giver in a joint family, you might want to have a subtle and honest conversation with the takers, sharing the thinking and method described in this post to assess the situation. Try and see if it awakens their conscience.

Let me tell you this: Takers often have no limits, it’s the givers who have to draw the line.

So if you pitch to them to go independent, you would be doing them a favor initiating them to make men of themselves – even if they hate you for it.

If A Woman Doesn’t Like You, You Are A Pervert

Women always complain how hard it is for them to exist in the world where they can’t be out without facing harassment in the form of hungry stares and catcalls from men. Men drooling over women like dogs, they would say, are sick members of the misogynistic society.

Let’s examine in this post 1) why men stare at women, and 2) how far women are justified in their claims of harassment of this form.

Why do men stare at women?

It is instructive to read Sexual Economics by Roy F. Baumeister to understand what follows in this post better.

In the sexual marketplace, women are the ones holding the resource called sex. The resource that men desire. Women trade sex for commitment from men (which comes with wealth sharing and/or protection from men).

That is economics applied to the realm of sexuality; and explained by Roy Baumeister as sexual economics.

Women are the “sellers”, and men are the “buyers” in the sexual marketplace. Moreover, it is a seller’s market. Meaning, there is always more demand than supply of sex, putting women (sellers) in a powerful bargaining position. Consequently, it is to women’s advantage to be passive in the sexual marketplace while men have to be super active.

If a woman actively seeks to trade her sexual resource, the value of her resource would go down. On the other hand, if more men want to “buy” her resource, she is said to be commanding high value.

In normal language, a woman who actively seeks men for sex is seen as low value woman. And if many men desire a woman, that woman is a high value woman.

Since there are always more men desiring sex and ready for it at a given point of time than women, it is to women’s advantage to stay passive and allow men to approach them. That is why men approach and women decide.

Make no mistake, women want to be approached by men. If men did not approach women, evolution would fail and humans would soon go extinct.

Now imagine yourself as a buyer. Buyers screen products on offer. The sellers, especially in the seller’s market, don’t need to look at or solicit the buyers, but the buyers would compulsively scrutinize all sellers and their products to get the best deal. They even window shop when they don’t want to buy. They may not be in a position to buy certain product that they desire, but they would look at it when it is on display. That is the buyer’s mind. And men are the buyers in the sexual marketplace.

That is essentially why men stare at women. It is not harassment from men’s point of view. It is the biological design of nature that keeps the species alive.

It is the same force that makes men stare at women makes them approach women. And women want to be stared at and be approached by men. If not, they wouldn’t be carrying themselves the way they do.

Why do you think they show so much skin wearing revealing clothes? And the use of cosmetics to make them look attractive is just a seller’s tactic to draw more potential buyers. Women spend so much on looking attractive that nearly half of their attractiveness is fake, a result of cosmetics.

So why do women rail against men staring at them and catcalling them?

Have you seen a bum being shooed away from a shopping mall? Now you would know why.

Women want attention from men. They want to be stared at and be approached by men. But not just any man. Women want the attention of the men who they perceive to be of high value. Their attention whoring is to compete for high value men in the sexual marketplace.

Women can’t admit this. Hence the hypocrisy and double standard.

If a woman is stared at or is approached by a low value man, she would cry harassment and call the man pervert. This is their strategy to keep the low value men away.

If a high value man stares at a woman, he is deemed interested. If a low value man stares at a woman, he is pervert.

That has been, and is, the evolutionarily successful strategy for women.

You may also like my companion post: Rape Through the Lenses of Sexual Economics.

This article was originally published on Max Newman’s blog. Follow Max Newman on Twitter.

Beauty and the Beast – Red Pill Analysis by Stefan Molyneux

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In Disney’s remake of the classic tale Beauty and the Beast, Emma Watson plays Belle, a “bright, beautiful and independent young woman, is taken prisoner by a beast in its castle.” Is Beauty and the Beast filled with the anti-male female vanity stoking tropes that has become commonplace in modern Disney films? What is the truth about Emma Watson’s rendition of Beauty and the Beast – is it a fun children’s story, or vile and dangerous propaganda?

Stefan Molyneux on Twitter.

Ten Ways To Live Frugally And Intelligently

Masculinity is not only about physical strength and aggressive behavior but also, among other things, about patience, composure and overall intelligent living.

The present day social environment is increasingly filled with toxic ideologies and information disseminated by the popular media and by anybody with an internet connection and a blog. Therefore, I think that masculinity in the present day has an added meaning of being able to wade through the misinformation-overload of the unprecedented scale and live in a way that is least harmful to oneself, and most beneficial to the society. After all, it is men who build and run the society (for the most part).

We are living in the consumer culture. It is a culture wherein individuals are constantly encouraged to buy stuff, even the stuff that they don’t need. Through systematic brainwashing the corporations are creating needs in people’s minds that would never have arisen otherwise. Where there is a corporation, there is a system in place that ensures that all the money that you earn (mostly from working for one of them) goes back right to the corporations. And they are present in almost every sphere of life today. Foods, clothing, entertainment, electronics, media, everywhere!

In a world like this, frugal living is intelligent living. As a man, one must know to live intelligently.

Below are some of the ways towards that end:

1) Do without accessories, except a wrist-watch

I am referring to accessories like chains, bracelets or wrist-bands, rings etc. made of metal or any other material that many men wear. Such accessories are for women and feminine men.

Women traditionally have been adorning their bodies with accessories to attract attention of men. Men need no such thing. For men, it is their masculine attitude which comprises of strength, confidence, composure, etc. that creates attraction in the opposite sex.

The only accessory that I find useful is a wrist-watch. Get a sturdy watch that has an eye-catching dial, and either metal or resin strap. Leather straps soon turn smelly with sweating, and otherwise are not as durable as metal or resin straps. I currently have a Casio Illuminator watch with resin strap which has a dial that is both digital and analogue. It sports a look that is suitable for both formal and casual settings.

Keep in mind the objectives: A single watch that is 1) durable, 2) has a dial that stands out 3) is suitable for formal as well as casual setting, and 4) is low to moderately priced.

2) Have single pair of jeans, and a few plain t-shirts

Have only one pair of jeans and a few (three to four) plain cotton t-shirts. Go for jeans of the fit that is currently in fashion and get them in dark color (indigo or dark grey). For t-shirts, keep them plain and of the colors that are in contrast with the jeans. Light grey, yellow and khaki are some of the best colors in my opinion as they don’t easily show the signs of aging unlike black, navy blue, brown etc. that take on a lighter shade after a number of washes. Light gray, for example, would not betray that it is being worn for months unless it is torn or has got holes in it. Plain white t-shirt is also good, except that it would catch stains easily.

A pair of branded jeans might cost you somewhat dearly but they last a long time. Jeans are rugged and durable clothing. A one-time investment should last you at least a couple of years. Plain t-shirts on the other hand are normally the cheapest of clothing articles in a mall, even the good quality ones. Go for low to mid-range ones and do not compromise much on quality because one of the primary goals is also durability.

On a well-toned body this combination looks classy any day. There is no need to go for colorful and flashy jeans and shirts like you are going for a party. Flashy clothing is for women and feminine men who lack natural traits in their personality to make them attractive.

This does not mean that you would have no other clothes. You might occasionally need some party wear and a few formal clothes if your workplace requires wearing formals. The above, however, should comprise your go-to wear for hanging out with friends, going out on casual occasions, picnics and even on dates.

3) Say no to junk food

I read this advice somewhere: Be skeptical of eating anything that did not exist when your grandfather was a kid. It is a great advice if you see through it.

Modern food industry through prolific use of advertising seems to have convinced people that they are supposed to eat virtually all the time. A zillion varieties of processed and junk foods are available in a zillion different types of packaging or are served in restaurants at nearly every street corner. Now people want to eat when they are travelling, taking a stroll, or even when they are just bored!

Most of the food that the urban population is eating is useless, and harmful. All processed foods, that is, foods that come in packets, tins, bottles, are junk. All foods made of white flour are junk. Out go the window all bread items (even the so-called whole grain bread) like pizzas, burgers and sandwiches. All food items that are deep-fried are junk. All food items made with excessive use of butter, cheese, mayonnaise, sauces and spices are junk. As far as I know, all Chinese food is junk too. A rule of thumb: Just about all the food that is “fast” and advertised is junk.

Eat home-made food. Food made with wheat flour, like roti. Curries made with pulses and fresh vegetables, brown rice, salad,.. If you need to munch on something for time-pass, eat nuts. I am vegetarian, so I don’t know much about non-veg food, but I would say avoid eating anything that is preserved and cooked in a way that kills nutrients and adds a lot of fat to it. And while we are at it, eat heavy meals only when hungry and never stuff your stomach.

I am not proposing ascetic life here. It is impossible to stay away from temptation to eat junk food 100% of the times. However, setting a rule around it helps. You can set a rule to have the aforementioned junk food only once a week, or twice at most. That is my rule at this time. Someone with more discipline may keep it once a month or so.

If you are not already practicing moderation, ask yourself how much money you spend on the junk food and you might be surprised. It is a great money saver as well as immensely benefits health. Makes it much easier to keep the body in good shape. When the body is healthy, so is the mind.

4) Don’t smoke, drink or dope

If you smoke, drink, or dope as a habit then there is no point reading this guide any further. You are wasting your money and damaging your body and mind in such major way that all other efforts at self-improvement are futile.

Smoking occasionally (one or two cigarettes a month), and that too only when it has some instrumental benefit or the company necessitates it, is fine. Likewise, moderate social drinking is fine. But if you can’t resist the urge to smoke or drink then consider yourself to be way past the limit. As for doping, you should strictly keep away from every form of it. It is not worth your money and precious health.

Only a stupid person would be slave to his addictions.

5) Walk instead of using transportation

Make it a compulsive habit to walk short to moderately long distances instead of taking a vehicle or using public transportation. If you are short of time for where you have to reach, well, then walk faster!

I walk around three kilometers every day, which is because I don’t have scope to walk more. I wouldn’t mind walking up to ten kilometers a day or some more. If your circumstances allow you to walk about ten kilometers in a day, consider yourself lucky and walk.

Going to the market, hanging out with friends, running errands, going between home and the train station to and from work,.. All this can be done walking instead of using transportation.

6) Use low-end smartphone, till it goes outdated

Smartphone is a necessity. Using a smartphone as against a basic mobile phone increases one’s productivity tremendously. However, a low-end Android phone today does almost everything that a phone which is ten-times costlier does. Besides, the technology advances so fast that the features of today’s high-end phone would become available in the low-end phone in a year’s time.

The phone that I currently use is Motorola E series Android phone. It is sturdily built and has battery life matching that of high-end phones. It may lack some fancy features, but if you ask yourself what gains in productivity do people using the high-end phones achieve vis-à-vis those not using those phones, you will hardly find any. Mostly it just boils down to snob appeal. Men need not fall for it.

Corporations don’t want to manufacture products to last long. They not only want you to buy stuff you don’t need, but also want you to keep buying. It is called planned obsolescence. It means that a phone or a computer you would buy today is purposely designed to become obsolete before its physical life ends. They upgrade OS’s and technical specs at short intervals, so the phone you own today would not run the software/apps a few years later even if your phone is in good condition. Most people are gullible enough to change their phones in much shorter duration by falling into the trap these companies lay for them. Do not be one of them.

I have a friend who used an Android phone for 4 years till it went bad. His OS version (Android Froyo) did not support many of the apps that the subsequent versions of the OS did, but it did support many of the essential apps and that did the job for him. Do not be the fool to go and buy the latest device every time they are launched. Get new phone only and only when your current phone stops working or becomes absolutely outdated. You are not losing much, if anything at all.

7) Don’t go to expensive gym

Unless you aim to become muscular body-builder, there is no need to go to a gym at all. Buy dumbbells, a rod and a few weights, a bench, and learn exercises that can be done at home. You don’t necessarily need everything that I mentioned. A couple of dumbbells would suffice for basic exercises. YouTube is a great place to learn about various exercises and diet for fitness.

A half hour of weightlifting at home and an hour of walking outdoors should be sufficient for you to be the healthiest person in the neighborhood. If you can’t exercise every day, do it at least three days in a week.

8) Buy second-hand things

Barring electronics and clothes, there are many things that can be bought second-hand. Furniture, exercise weights, bicycle, books, etc. are some of the things that don’t spoil easily and if you find them in good condition they may give you years of usage with minimum spending.

Nowadays there are many websites (Olx.com for one) where you can buy second-hand stuff directly from the people who want to sell them. Take advantage of fools who want to sell perfectly good stuff as they are running on the hedonic treadmill of relentless consumerism.

9) Don’t use shampoo and deodorant

As a man you don’t need to use shampoo, and certainly not deodorant. There are alternatives to these products that not only cost nothing but also give surprisingly great results. See my detailed post about it.

10) Don’t spend crazy money on women, take the Red Pill

Only men who don’t really understand women spend money on fancy gifts and expensive dinners for women. Without the right personality the money you spend on women would bring you no success with them. And with the right personality women would love you even if you don’t spend a dime on them.

Gifts and dinners are overrated. I have had a hot girl who would give me sex and cook for me every time I went to her place. I never took her out to dinner, holiday, or gave her any gift. Not even a birthday present. I saw her for a few months and the total amount of money I spent on her is literally zero. And yet on my birthday I got an expansive shirt from her!

Most men in the world have no clue what women find attractive in men, and consequently they are terrible with women. Fortunately, today we have internet and there are many great men writing blogs to enlighten men about the nature of women, and a lot more about being a man.

Take the Red Pill. Follow these blogs in the mesosphere:

• Chateau Heartiste
• Alpha Game
• Return of Kings
• RooshV
• The Rational Male
• Purushatma

They would cover every aspect of masculinity from seduction and game, to hygiene and style, to society and politics. Everything that is needed to make one an exemplary man.

This article was originally published on Max Newman’s blog. Follow Max Newman on Twitter.

How To Do Affirmations And Why They Work

In 2016, Scott Adams has been one of the most influential persons I came across. His book How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big is the best self-help book available today in my opinion. In that book, Adams offers many hacks to help one become more productive and efficient, and succeed in life.

One of the things that he talks about in the book is affirmations.

What Are Affirmations?

Affirmations are simply the practice of repeating to yourself what you want to achieve while imagining the outcome you want. You can write it, speak it, or just think it in sentence form. The typical form of an affirmation would be “I, Scott Adams, will become an astronaut.” – Scott Adams, How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big, Chapter 24

When you want to achieve something in life, whether it is something material or in terms of any skill, you should say to yourself or write down on a piece of paper several times a day (10 to 15 times or more) that you will work for it and achieve it; and it vastly increases the odds of you achieving the desired thing.

Affirmations may not appeal to scientific minds, but let me assure you that I am not superstitious. I also don’t believe the pseudoscience of The Secret or the Law of Attraction and think that doing affirmations exerts some pressure on the universe to bend its laws in favor of the person doing affirmations. But I am convinced that they work.

Why Do I Believe In Affirmations?

The reason why the concept of affirmations appealed to me when I read about it in Adams’ book is partly because I had already employed them when I was younger and superstitious, and had seen success. I did them differently then and didn’t call them affirmations.

In those days, every night before going to sleep I used to recite some prayers and then say to myself, “I will do this-and-this”, “I will achieve this-and-this” and so on. I achieved many of the things I stated in my affirmations. But as I grew in age I stopped saying those prayers and affirmations, and thought I was superstitious for doing so. I also thought that I would have achieved them regardless of affirmations.

Now I strongly believe that affirmations did help me at least to some extent in those days. It’s just that the way the affirmations worked was different than what my superstitious mind thought at the time.

How To Do Affirmations?

You shouldn’t be too specific in your affirmations. For example, if your aim is to master guitar, don’t say “I will master guitar in two years“. Instead, just say “I will master guitar”. Understand that affirmations are not science like physics where you can apply x amount of force for y amount of time and be sure of the outcome. Leave out details like timelines from affirmations.

Keep the affirmations clear and short. Some examples below:

• I will master guitar.
• I will own a bigger house and a bigger car.
• I will quit my corporate job.
• I will make money online.
• I will write a book.

Write them down on a piece of paper 10 to 15 times or more in a day. Or you can just say them aloud to yourself. Work with 5 to 6 affirmations regularly. More than that would be too many.

This way you are repeatedly affirming that you will achieve what you desire. It will vastly increase your odds of achieving those things.

How/Why Do Affirmations Work?

Human mind is a complex organism. It cannot be operated in a straightforward way as we would like to keep it. You can’t just say “I want achieve so-and-so”, and glide through the path to achieve the end. There are distractions and you lose focus. There are also demotivating factors that derail the mind.

But if you hack your mind, you can get it to do what you want from it.

Affirmations are a mind-hack. They keep the mind focused on goals. They keep reminding you of your destination so that your mind quickly spots the influences that are going to derail you. As a result, you avoid the negative influences before they affect you. And not only do you avoid the negative influences, you draw positive influences towards you, too.

For example, if one of your affirmations is “I will always stay lean and healthy”, it will be easy for you to stick to healthy diet, avoid smoking, and find ways to avoid any and all health problems. It’s like your mind will always be on the lookout for information and guidance for healthy living.

If your mind is reminded of 5 to 6 long term goals several times in a day then any time it is free it will divert its energy towards activities that take you closer to those goals. This may sound simplistic, but affirmations are actually more potent than one would be willing to agree. Affirmations are one of the best mind-hacks.

As a closing remark I would add with emphasis that for affirmations to work best it would help if one believes that affirmations work and one wants them to work.

Try affirmations instead of New Year’s resolutions this time.

This article was originally published on Max Newman’s blog. Follow Max Newman on Twitter.

Karan Johar’s ADHM – Through The Crimson Glass

This is our red pill take on Karan Johar’s latest film Ae Dil Hai Mushkil (2016). Who would have thought that of all filmmakers KJo’s film would qualify to be on Purushatma? Whether or not KJo is red pill aware, we don’t know. But the film ADHM remains consistent with the crimson truths to the end.

As the story begins, Ayan (Ranbir Kapoor) is picked up by Alizeh (Anushka Sharma) from a night club and the scene changes to one where they are making out. While making out Ayan shows his inexperience with women by lousy kissing and other beta male tells, and as a result even before they get naked he is pushed into what is every niceguy’s hell – the friendzone. From there on, beta as he is, in the friendzone he remains.

Alizeh is what the redpillers call an alpha widow at the time. And even though she is sort of engaged to someone she doesn’t mind slutting around. She’s every “free spirited” modern woman who thinks they can do anything when they are in a place where no one knows them. To hell with right and wrong. Right is what feels right.

With a woman of such character, Ayan never had a shot. But hopeful, he carries on with the friendship. He’s a niceguy. Very nice guy. And he’s so full of heart that his heart frequently overflows through his eyes. That’s too much heart to have in this day and age, we think.

As every man who’s ever been in the friendzone knows, it is impossible for a man to remain friends with the woman he’s attracted to. We see Ayan checking with her at one point if she’s attracted to him, and she’s surprised he even asked her that. She says she is not, and tells him that she never wants to lose him as a friend. Several times after that we see him begging her and pleading with her to love him, and every time it escalates to him insulting her and storming out angrily. Only to come back later. Hopeless.

Generally, Alizeh says she doesn’t have the space in her heart anymore for her ex, but consistent with the hypothesis of alpha widow, she’s not really over him. So when she encounters her ex again while holidaying with Ayan, she dismisses Ayan’s protectiveness and tells him to go away – and he does. Guess what happens after. After a few months she invites Ayan to her wedding (yes, with the same man), and how could he decline? He goes, but hardly survives it.

In the subsequent phase of his life, Ayan enters into a no-strings-attached relationship with a smoking hot divorced woman Saba (Aishwarya Rai). He wishes to make Alizeh jealous by showing off his newfound success in the realm of sex. In trying to achieve this naive end, he only loses “the prize”. Seeing how his heart is hung on Alizeh, Saba suddenly realizes her low worth in Ayan’s life. She develops feelings for him and decides to let him go for she can never take Alizeh’s place in his heart.

A couple of years forward, Ayan learns that Alizeh is no longer married. She could not get the alpha to love her enough. (Any surprise?) Ayan seeks her out. She is bald. She has cancer now. He cries again. He takes care of her day and night. Begs for her love again. His undying hope is cringeworthy as he asks her what else he would have to do to earn her love. He tells her that he can also smoke cigarettes and get tattoos to meet her “high” standards. Kudos to KJo for that dialogue!

Finally, Ayan keeps his end of the bargain by being Alizeh’s friend till the end of her life.

The red pill nuggets in the film:

• The truth about alpha widow: An alpha widow would never get over or forget the alpha she has been with in the past, no matter how many good men come in her life. She may express her hatred of him generally, but would jump at the first chance she gets to be with him again.
• The friendzone:  Being niceguy is a surefire way to the friendzone. And once in that hell, do not count on the time to turn things around –  especially if one continues being nice to the woman. Oh and begging and pleading for love? Forget it.
• Men’s sexual nature: Men’s brains are compartmentalized. They can have sex with a woman while being deeply in love with another woman. Having sex with a woman does not make them fall in love with that woman.
• Women’s sexual nature: Women can not keep love separated from sex. When a woman starts a no-strings-attached relationship with a man, after a period of time she is bound to develop romantic love for the man.
• The truth about women’s sexual liberation: Left to her own devices a woman is incapable of selecting the right man for her. Women are wired to be attracted to badboys (for they have alpha male traits) and are sexually repelled by niceguys (for they have beta male traits). A “liberated” woman in the civilized society is therefore destined to the life of unhappiness.

The film is marketed as a story of one sided love. Some may even see it as a story of greatness of friendship over love. In our view, it is a story of a woman who should be thankful to cancer – the illness which saved her from the wretched life of lovelessness and unhappiness. Because that’s the fate of modern, liberated, alpha cock seeking women.

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Working Men are Slaves, Working Women are Independent

When women say that they want to work to be independent, therein lies a difference between men’s and women’s positions in the modern society. Historically, men have been working because the society has been using them as providers and protectors, not because they wanted to be independent. The thought of being independent is fundamentally detrimental to the society’s interests.

Men work to provide for their dependents, which adds value to the society. Women want to work to be independent, which effectively negates the value. Unlike men, women want to work for themselves. After all, that’s what independence means. Most of the working and “independent” women declare shopping as their favorite hobby. That explains where their income goes. Men never said they were independent, because they never were. Nor have they cried for independence.

Most men hate their work, but do they have a choice? Who will run the society if they stopped working? One might ask oneself, who will provide for their family if men decided to be independent? If one’s answer is women, one could not be more wrong. A women would not even marry and form a family with a man who did not work to begin with. We don’t even need studies to prove this, just common sense and looking around. Thus, men don’t work because they want to be independent, they work because they have no choice.

A woman who is not interested in making a home, taking care of children, and maintaining communal ties is as useless to the society as a man who does not want to work.

How gender roles are formed

There are two important systems that shoulder every society. Economy and family. If either of the two is inexistent or fails, the society would not develop to begin with or collapse. In most basic terms, economy takes care of feeding people, and family system is necessary to increase/maintain the population. For a society to thrive the two systems must work in tandem. If economy collapses people would go hungry. In modern times it translates into difficulty in fulfilling the basic needs. If family system collapses it means reduction in marriage and birthrate and decline in population, along with loss of meaning in life and ennui in modern times.

It was not tyranny of men who chose women for the role of homemaker while choosing more “independent” life for themselves. It was so arranged because that’s what both men and women are naturally suited for. In the primitive stages of society when there were no desk jobs available and the environment was fraught with dangers, women could not afford to take on the role of provider and protector. They were best suited for domestic tasks while men worked with dangers of the environment to feed and protect their women and children. Men brought food, women prepared and served it to the family. Men built houses, women kept them in order and made them homes. Men fought wars to protect their community, women oiled communal ties. Men carried out the large scale tasks because they are endowed with the required fortitude and more strength than women. Women carried out the relatively smaller scale tasks, because that’s what they are best endowed for.

Men built and ran economies,  and women built and ran families. None of the genders chose their respective tasks, it just happened with nature’s arrangement based on respective strengths of the two sexes. Societies with any other arrangement would have perished, because as mentioned above for any society to thrive the economy and family system must work in tandem, and this was the only arrangement conducive to that end.

Once the wheels of the society are set in motion in direction of growth with a given arrangement, any deviation generates negative payoffs (in the form of problems) that create pressures for the deviating agents to re-align their paths to the mutual interests of the society. That’s why we say that the society pressurized women to stick to their original role to participate in the family system, and still pressurizes men to work to participate in the economy.

The title of this article says working men are slaves. Similarly, women in their traditional role must also feel the same way, that they are domestic slaves. Let me be clear, I used this terminology only to make women understand that if they feel like slaves confined to domestic tasks, the world is not bed of roses for men either.

This so called slavery for men and women is not bad. It is what makes the society and all the comforts that we enjoy possible. Real independence is not what it seems like. In jungle is one really independent, in the society one has to fit into the designed roles. The protagonist of the film Into the Wild (based on a true story) breaks free from the society to live independently into the wild. He is barely able to feed himself and is killed by the vagaries of nature. That is what real independence is like.

Women who abandon their traditional role in the society are narcissists in the same way men who want to loaf without working are. Both are a cost to the society.

The equality movement has done great disservice to the society by making women think that they were being oppressed and made slaves of by men who enjoyed all independence. It has made women dissatisfied with their role which is essential for the society to sustain itself.

Men and women in their traditional roles are like right and left wheels of the cart. The society can not run with two right wheels or two left wheels alone. We did not need women to take over men’s roles while abandoning their own.

As more women are “liberated”, families are disappearing. White Western women are among the most liberated in the world, and white population in the West is on decline. This heralds the collapse of human civilization.

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How Call Centers Encourage Sluttiness In Women

Slut (noun): A woman with the sexual morals of a man. A man who is popular among women is stud but a woman who is popular among men is slut.

Understanding the above is prerequisite for understanding this article. If you don’t agree with it, then I recommend you familiarize yourself with the socio-biological foundations of the sexual “double standard”. (Refer to the links at the end of the article.)

Modern women across the board are turning sluttier by the day, but the call center industry in India especially suffers from an epidemic of sluttiness. Below are some of the reasons for that.

High number of youngsters

Workforce in call centers largely comprises of young people of less than thirty years of age. This is because many of the call centers hire undergraduate college students and even dropouts. Owing to the high number of youngsters, atmosphere in call centers is much like a college campus. What only makes it worse than a college campus is the fact that the young dimwits are earning their own money which gives them the sense of independence to escape parental control and act out their basic nature. Young women with their own money, with independence that comes with it, exposed to young men – perfect conditions for playing out sluttiness.

Working at night

People working in call centers hate it when they are stigmatized for
working at night. But the stigma is not unfounded. It is easy to do illicit things when the world is quiet and there are fewer eyes watching you. Large number of people working in call centers, men as well as women, have moral values which are abysmal. When I see call center women smoking on a street outside the office, I can’t help but wonder if she would be doing it had there been daylight and bustle of the world around with possibility of some known relative running into her. And smoking is not the most shocking thing I see. The night provides favorable atmosphere for the basic nature to play out.

Lack of professionalism at workplace

Call centers lack professionalism at workplace, simply because the workforce comprises of dimwits. As I mentioned above, call centers have a high number of youngsters working for them who carry casual attitude towards work and life in general. They lack polished, civil manners. Young men and women in call centers, with boiling hormones, behave like they do on college campuses. There are fewer restraints, because professionalism is not expected nor demanded of them.

Relatively high income for the low level of intelligence and skills

Compared to traditional industries, intelligence and skills required for a call center job are nothing. And for that low level of intelligence and skills, the dimwits working in call centers are paid too well. For someone who is not even a graduate it is very easy to earn anywhere from 25 to 50 thousand rupees a month. The problem with putting so much money in the hands of someone who is a dumb fuck is that the money is not going to be used in a good way. Most women anyway do not shoulder responsibility of feeding their families. Majority of women working in call centers are young and don’t have families yet. Where do they put all that money then? Fashionable clothes, accessories and make up. Partying out and having fun. In short, on acting slutty.

Increasing number of women smoking and drinking

Call center jobs can be mentally exhausting, talking to all sorts of angry and frustrated callers. Not all call centers are into customer service, but talking to any type of people continually all day takes its toll. Be it due to the nature of work or the fact that in the dark of night the world isn’t watching (actually both) a lot of women working in call centers are smokers. The bad habits of smoking and alcoholism in call center women are perhaps the highest outside of glamour industry. People with bad habits influence others. The number of women falling prey to these influences is increasing by the day. It has already reached a level where it doesn’t shock one anymore, seeing women act like men.

Women dress like sluts

One wonders if the women in call centers come there to work or to take part in a fashion show. Everyone wants to dress like models. And why not? Makeup, accessories and fashionable clothes, that’s all they seem to be spending all their salaries on, since most women working in call centers don’t provide for their families. Reason is, there are (well, mostly) only three types of women working in call centers: Single, divorced, and those with fucked up marriages.

Fun culture is encouraged

In most of the call centers fun culture is encouraged. Frequent parties where people drink and act out their animal instincts is a norm. Combine the lack of professionalism, lack of intelligence in average call center worker, average age of a call center employee, with the amount of money they make, and one can see what such culture would lead to.

High number of call center women are living alone

A very high number of women working in call centers are living alone. The reason for this, I believe, is that in most traditional Indian families women are not allowed to work, much less work at night. Therefore, high number of women who are too liberal and have already separated from their families, or are willing to separate, work in call centers. The number of call center women living alone may be around 20%, but even that is very high. Women living alone are most likely sluts. And this is a big number to influence other women around them of their slutty ways of life.

Spoiling marriages and providing sexual options to women

Married people working in call centers have a fucked up life. A marriage in which the woman is working is anyway an uphill battle. Women working at night only worsens the situation. Extra marital affairs are rampant in call centers which ruins marriages. Hypergamy trumps, because the fact that a married woman has to work nights in a shitty industry as call centers means that she is likely married to a socially low-ranking man. Call centers provide such women with options to spice up their boring life.

Not all women working in call centers are slutty. But the number of slutty women is high enough for the parents of girls to think twice before allowing their daughters to work in a call center.

Relevant links:

• Sexual Economics: Sex as Female Resource for Social Exchange in Heterosexual Interactions
• Keys, Locks, Sluts and Studs: Understanding the Economics of the Sexual Market Place
• Sluts & Studs: Why Promiscuity is Acceptable for Men and Not Women
• Women Are Sluts If They Sleep Around But Men Are Not
• Why There Will Always Be A Sexual “Double Standard”

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