The Friend-zone Shit Test

In many of your interactions with women, watch out for this interesting but all-too-common shit test.

Let us say you are seducing some woman and it is going well, and she is clearly intrigued by you.  She finds you desirable.  But maybe your game is not absolutely perfect and she is somewhat hesitant and is not being too physical with you.  And let us say you make some moves and she acts a bit annoyed, as if you being a hot-blooded man is somehow a bad thing.

And you understand the situation and don’t annoy her to the point of putting her off.  You tease her, continue to make your moves, and when it doesn’t seem to be going further and is petering off, you end the interaction.

Now in such a situation, she might later say (or text you on phone) something like this:

“Hey, it was a fun night.  I really like you but can we just be friends?”

Most men would consider this a failure of their seduction attempt and will likely regard it as friend-zoning.  Many men will say “OK” and continue their seduction in later interactions.  Many will resentfully stop interacting with her.  And a few will try to convince her that you “deserve” more than the friend-zoning.

None of these is likely to work.  All these are you playing by her rules.

What is likely to work, nay, almost guaranteed to work, however, is this kind of a response:

“Uhh.  That won’t work for me.  I don’t do friendships with women that I find desirable.”

This is going to get her hamster spinning.  Does she want to be “undesirable” for you?  Does she want to cut ties with someone who finds her desirable and is unapologetic about it?  Does she want to end the interaction at a sour note with someone that she has enjoyed interacting with?

This was a shit test.   She was testing whether you are weak and whether you will accept her terms.

If you back down and negate your own desires, there is no chance that she will fulfill those desires.  You will then merely waste your time with her in future interactions as she tells you about her career troubles and her love interests.

If you proudly and with clear self-awareness, and with honesty, tell her that friend-zoning is not your thing, that shows her that you are not going to be a beta chump for her.  She can move on, or give herself to you.

In our experience, it is almost certain that she will accept your dominance.  That is what she was testing for, anyway.

Try it next time something like this happens.  You will be surprised how she would want to make up to you for her transgression of suggesting such a dumb idea.

Maxims, continued…

An earlier anthology.

(The following list is from a comment on Chateau Heartiste)

Maxims

Maxim #1a: Women desire men of better quality than themselves.

Maxim #2: Women are turned on by displays of male power.

Maxim #3: Whenever an attractive girl tells you she hates assholes, or describes her experience in the past dating assholes and claims to avoid them now, or recites a laundry list of asshole-y things guys do that she disapproves of, you can bet your weight in gold bricks that she wants you to be an asshole to her.

Maxim #4: Never trust a woman who is missing a sense of humor.

Maxim #6: Never. Make. It. Easy. For. A. Woman.

Maxim #7: Your girl will thank you for your steadfast devotion to your belief in yourself.

Maxim #8: Always assume she is a slut. It helps kick the legs out from under the pedestal you will be tempted to put her on, and it is more often than not true.

Maxim #9: The greater the age difference between the older man and the younger woman, the tighter his game will need to be, barring compensatory attributes (money).

Maxim #10: Marriage is a social mechanism designed to exchange sex for indentured servitude.

Maxim #11: Calling a girl out on her lie accomplishes nothing.

Maxim #12: When the love is gone, women can be as cold as if they had never known you.

Maxim #13: When in doubt, game.

Maxim #14: Female cultural equality = male dating inequality. Female cultural inequality = male dating equality. Human nature says that you can‘t have it both ways.

Maxim #15: Be narcissistic. There is no greater divergence than that between a woman’s stated disapproval of male narcissism and the rapidity with which she jumps into bed with a male narcissist.

Maxim #16: The two fundamental propositions are male choosiness and female abundance. All alpha males have these two mindsets in common. Corollary: Male choosiness and female abundance do not necessarily have to be true for the strategy of behaving as if they are true to be effective at seduction.

Maxim #17: The alpha male thinks and acts more like a woman than a man in matters of seduction. He understands his adversary’s psychology, and uses it to allay her defenses.

Maxim #18: Never talk about getting into a relationship even if she says that’s what she’s looking for.

Maxim #19: Withholding sex is the tactic of a woman who has already lost. It is mutually assured destruction.

Maxim #20: If a woman says the word “sex” in conversation with you or about you, no matter the context, it means she’s thinking about having sex with you.

Maxim #21: Women are more pliable in the company of competing women.

Maxim #22: You have to make marriage an attractive alternative for MEN — not women — if you want the institution to thrive.

Maxim #23: The vagina tingle is the principal moral code to which women subscribe. All other moral considerations are secondary.

Maxim #24: When in doubt, ask yourself “WWJD?” What Would a Jerk Do? Then do that.

Maxim #25: NO girl wants to be thought she isn’t a special little snowflake.

Maxim #26: Never tell a girl how much you make, even if you’re loaded. In case of marriage, keep separate accounts.

Maxim #27: If you want a wife, stay clear of investing much in girls who constantly remind you they like to have “fun, fun, fun” and “get bored easily”.

Maxim #28: The more experience you have with women, the more you’ll know which women have experience with men: It is the inexperienced beta male who is most often in the dark about a woman’s sexual history and liable to be victimized by it.

Maxim #29: Xenophobia is good for diversity.

Maxim #30: Women will not hold it against you for trying to get into their panties on the first night. In fact, they will respect you more for your boldness and willingness to follow your manly desires.

Maxim #31: If you plan on cheating and subsequently get caught, act like a total dick who did nothing wrong. Your girlfriend will then wonder if it’s something she did.

Maxim #32: Commanding women to do your bidding will give you a bigger beta margin of error when needed.

Maxim #33: Women need to test men for their grace under pressure.

Maxim #34: If she’s hot, why would she bother with online dating?

Maxim #35: Never trust a woman’s advice on how to please women. Her advice is designed for alpha men she already finds attractive and from whom she seeks signals of attainability and commitment.

Maxim #36: A woman’s sex and relationship advice isn’t meant to help men; it’s meant to distract men from what really works to attract women.

Maxim #37: High IQ is no inoculation against beta delusion. If anything, high IQ obstructs clear thinking about women’s nature.

Maxim #38: The longer you are away from seducing new women, the harder it will be to seduce one when you want.

Maxim #39: The worst thing to happen to women in America was women’s suffrage.

Maxim #40: Men are becoming ever bigger betas in their dealings with women. Men are losing the leverage to shape and push women’s child-like and selfishly amoral political opinions in logical, just and long-term oriented directions.

Maxim #41: The definition of Inner Game: Hit on every woman who excites you. Make life uncomfortable for them, not yourself.

Maxim # 42: When a girl signals that she doesn’t enjoy blowjobs or sex, do not spend one second more with her. Your libido is too important to gamble on such a girl.

Maxim #43: In their sexual primes women’s attraction for assholes is at its strongest. You can catch a lot of hungry flies with honey, but shit attracts the most well-fed flies.

Maxim #44: If you get sexually rejected, don’t admit it to yourself, and especially don’t admit it to the girl.

Maxim #45: Women will screech louder the closer your words get to damaging or exposing vulnerabilities in their sexual market value.

Maxim #46: Whenever you hear or read the words “gender”, “gendered”, “gendered norm”, “subtle gender bias”, or “increasingly egalitarian, yet there remains…” know that you are dealing with a leftwing moonbat, blank-slate believing fruitcake who cannot deal with the fact that men and women are biologically different from birth.

Maxim #47: Awareness of a woman’s games is a precision-guided weapon in a man’s arsenal of seduction.

Maxim #48: Respect the momentum.

Maxim #49: The rare older woman-younger man pairing is like a lab experiment gone wrong. It violates the natural order of things, and leaves its practitioners emotionally twisted and in a constant mental race to hyper-rationalize their sub-par mate choice.

Maxim #50: Marriage is no escape from the sexual market and the possibility that you may be outbid by a competitor with higher value.

Maxim #51: For most women, five minutes of alpha is worth five years of beta.

Maxim #52: Underneath the veneer of civilized discourse we act in ways that are brazenly self-interested in the short term.

Maxim #53: All kneel before the god of biomechanics, by sword or by surrender.

Maxim #54: When a woman has incentive to lie, she will choose lying over honesty EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Maxim #55: Run for your Life Shit Tests:
BEWARE the classic gun-to-the-head marriage pressure administered by your typical non-descript, rudderless late 20’s/early 30’s woman.
When a woman pressures you mercilessly to marry her, bullying to the point of threatening a break up – this is the shit test of ALL shit tests. Treat it as such – If you fail this shit test, you are RUINED. FOR. LIFE.

Maxim #60: Waving a roll of benjamins at a woman will not give her tingles. In fact, it will often do the opposite.

Maxim #73: When a girl emphatically insists she is so over you, she’s never been more into you.

Maxim #21: Betas pay, alphas split, super alphas profit.

Maxim #39: A woman’s standards are like a house of cards: kick out one from the bottom and the whole edifice crashes down.

Maxim #85: As women’s bodies age and weaken, their rationalization hamsters grow bigger and stronger. Eventually, the hamster is powerful enough to take control of all higher order consciousness.

Maxim #87: The more expensive or thoughtful the gift you give a girl, the greater the risk that she will subconsciously begin to think she is too good for you.

Corollary to Maxim #87: If you are dating out of your league, or you are dating a young hot babe in her prime, you should do the exact opposite of what everyone will tell you to do — *don’t* buy her expensive gifts. Be particularly wary of advice from women. No woman in the world is capable of thinking clearly or impartially on the matter of “acceptable” levels of male provisioning. Even old, fat hausfrau hogs will expect mountains of jewels in offerings from men.

Maxim #105: Where there’s incentive, there are lies.

Maxim #109: Consensual polyamory is a contrived hookup service for undesirable sexual market rejects.

Maxim #198: Use of the word “disenfranchised” or other similar nomenclature of deconstructivist post-modern pablum automatically discredits an argument for serious consideration.

Maxim #200: Chicks dig guys willing to risk an early, gruesome death. Expendability is a DHV.

Twelve kinds of girls to avoid on Shaadi.com

Shaadi.com is the most popular matrimonial website in India.  Compared to a newspaper matrimonial, it offers clear advantages.  You can see photos of the other person, you can see more details about them, and you can communicate and chat with them.

In India, dating websites have not been very popular but they are gaining currency now.  Apps like Tinder are used by some folks but many girls are afraid that someone they know might come across their profile on such short-term dating platforms.

We understand.

Shaadi.com is supposedly to find your future husband or wife, but there are many – both men and women – who are on this website with no intention of getting married.  If you wish to date a woman, it is quite OK to create a profile on this website and treat it as a way to meet women.  If you find a real gem, you may want to consider a steady relationship with her.

But most women on Shaadi.com are quite weird and unfit for a relationship.  If you are just wanting to gain experience with different kinds of women, by all means go ahead.

The only cautionary note is to preserve all your communications and watch out for any indications that the woman is somehow too eager to get physical with you before even having met you.  It has happened that a woman on shaadi.com is just wanting to trap or blackmail you by accusing you of rape etc.

You obviously should read tips on how to create a good profile and how to build attraction via chatting and texting.  We will cover that aspect in another post.

But in this post, we offer some tips on which women to avoid if you are serious about finding a good girlfriend or wife.

  1. The very brief profile.  Don’t bother.  If she is not willing to put in some effort at writing about herself, she thinks of herself as a princess who has nothing to offer but is wanting to evaluate men falling over herself.
  2. The no photo.  She is ugly.  Having a password-protected photo or a photo visible on accept is OK, though.  Trust us, if she looked good, she would have a photo up there.
  3. The “u2”, “l8r”, “txt” and “wid” kind.  She is into too much texting and is an attention whore.  If a girl can’t bother to write a proper English sentence describing herself, don’t expect much from her.
  4. The “profile created by parents”.  If you want to marry someone with a good background, this may be OK.  But don’t expect to date this woman.  Be prepared to talk to her family and be humiliated when they ask you about your salary and prospects.
  5. The “no time wasters please”.  She has dated enough and now wants to trap a beta schlub.  And she is impatient to get hitched.  Be very cautious.  What she wants is for you to not evaluate or date her but just quickly agree to marrying her.
  6. The single moms.  You don’t want to be the one bringing up another man’s babies.  They are however, fine for dating.  But if there is even a hint that they have used some law against their ex-husbands, stay away.  They might trap you in a rape case “on the promise or marriage”.
  7. The “never married” post-wall women.  If she is 32+ and has never been married, rest assured that she has been through some relationships which didn’t work out.  She comes with emotional baggage.
  8. The “fatty face photos only” profile.  If she calls her body-type average but there is no fully-length photograph, she is most likely overweight or obese.  Don’t waste your time because when you finally meet her, you will be shocked.

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  9. The “fun-loving”.  She is vacuous.  Has no interest in anything serious, doesn’t read books, has no culinary skills, and gets wasted often.  She is probably good for a fling but NEVER make the mistake of getting emotionally invested in her.  If she is fun-loving, you too have fun.

    A relevant definition of fun-loving from Urban Dictionary:

    “The most ridiculous, pointless, and redundant adjective that has ever existed. More specifically, it’s what a lot of uncreative and ignorant incorrigibles use in their personals ad when they can’t think of something to say that actually has meaning to it. The definition of fun, is something that is a source of enjoyment, amusement, or pleasure. Therefore, the fact that something fun is enjoyable or pleasurable is built-in to the very meaning of the word. Hence, it is completely redundant and illogical to say “fun-loving”. How else is someone going to feel about fun? Fun-hating? The very notion is contradictory at best, and ludicrous at worst.

    Oh my god! I’m such a fun-loving person! What an amazing revelation.”

  10. The “drink in hand” crowd.  She is probably a party-type who stays awake till morning and then sleeps till noon.  Again, maybe OK for short-term flings, but definitely not wife-material.
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  11. The “hand on hip” pose.  This kind of girl watches too much of reality TV and knows all about celebrities and fashion trends.  She is usually insecure and high-maintenance.  Don’t spend a paisa on her but subtly neg her for her to come after you.  Again, not wife-material.  Not by a long shot.
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  12. The “accept me as I am” crowd.  She very likely has a bitchy attitude and has really bad manners.  If someone is good, they don’t have to ask others to accept them.  They are accepted naturally.  This kind of woman doesn’t understand what relationships are: a process of adjustment and empathy.  She probably thinks a relationship is all about her.  More likely, she has been a slut and doesn’t want you to judge.

 

Women Are A Waste Of Time

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Yes, I said it. Women are a complete and utter waste of time.

Chasing women is a complete waste of time.

Dating women is a total waste of your time.

Having female friends is an absolute waste of your time.

Women are only good for ONE thing… and outside of SEX and companionship, what could any ONE particular woman give you that you cannot get from someplace else?

A friendship? Ha Ha don’t make me laugh.

Most guys are not friends with girls because they truly VALUE that friendship. Most guys are friends with girls because they want to sleep with them. Plain and simple.

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I repeat: 99% of men are friends with girls because those men want to sneak into those girls pants if given the opportunity. That is the harsh cold truth and reality.

So really think about it…

Besides sex, what could any ONE particular girl actually give you that you can’t get from someplace else?

Business or financial advice? Again, do not make me cry.

Martial art tips or fighting advice? Again, ha ha…

What about weightlifting and fitness advice? Please…

Outside of SEX and companionship, a girl can offer you NOTHING…

So why do men continue to waste SO much time chasing them?

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Women Are A Waste of Time

Chase a girl and she will be forced to retreat further and further away from you.

Don’t give a girl too much attention, and watch her try to get YOUR attention.

The point of this article is to stress the fact that making your ENTIRE life revolve around women or “girls” is a waste of your time… and one and ONLY life.

If you are a man who has spent a considerable amount of time chasing women, chasing sex, doing nothing BUT chasing, chasing, chasing, then you my friend are wasting your time and your LIFE.

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Seriously, start some type of business.

Travel the world.

Begin to make some new friends (NOT female friends who you only want to sleep with but REAL, genuine friends you can actually learn something from).

Just STOP chasing women and START living life.

Women are a waste of time.

Source: Man Thesis

Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today

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Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?

We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.

It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

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We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.

We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

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Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.

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We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated’. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

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We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.

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We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.

Source: MensXP

Never Flirt With Or Date Your Co-Worker

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When men join work, they are bound to find female co-workers. Some restrict themselves to little chat sessions with women, others get a little flirtatious, but some get themselves entangled in full-fledged office romance. They are naive men ignorant of the impending dangers which can ruin their career and even their life.

My advice to them is:

At your workplace, you need undivided attention to do your best work. If you keep thinking of her, can’t wait to see her during your lunch break, or you are having conversations with her even while working, then she is nothing but a distraction. Your work quality will suffer.

Since you will be having female co-workers, they will gossip and make your life miserable. Since they are women, they will gossip. It is a given. Not only will it create problems for you, but for the girl you are involved with as well. This can become especially risky if gossip reaches your boss. You risk getting fired.

Most relationships are great in the beginning, but many turn sour. In usual breakups, you can avoid seeing a person or talking to her. However, in the workplace, you will have to see her everyday, or might even be required to talk to her, such as during team meetings or while doing group work.

In case of a breakup, you do not know what stories she will cook and spread in the office to defame you. Besides, your office is likely to be filled with feminists and white knights where you will instantly be the bad guy, who everyone will see with contempt.

You also risk being accused of sexual harassment. In this day and age it is especially dangerous because women are filing false cases left, right, and center. Not only will you lose your job, it will also hurt your reputation and family, and hinder your prospective job prospects. You risk being jobless for a long, long time. That is if you don’t go to jail.

Chasing Girls Should Not Be Your Life Purpose

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Men who make girls their life purpose usually have no prospect of success. They put their value in a girl, or girls in general. A man’s value should come from who he is, not how many girls he can get, or what they think of him. It is a very destructive and unhealthy way of living. Men need to get their priorities straight, and be grateful for their family, job, and friends. Girls should not even be on the list.

In schools, colleges, and workplaces, men pursue girls. That is a sad reality. A place of self-improvement where future is built is being wasted on girls. Time and more importantly focus is diverted. A man needs to focus on his goals, and understand that girls are a distraction, and a complete and utter waste of time and money.

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I am further shocked at the amount of time men waste on girls on social media- texting random girls and commenting and ‘liking’ their pictures. These men need to understand that girls cannot care less about them. What is the whole point of such a frivolous activity? Women like drama. And drama needs an audience. Men without any self-esteem or purpose in life are willing to become that audience.

Remember, cheap items have the most buyers. If a girl has many men chasing her, she is a cheap slut who men should not be pursuing anyway, regardless of her looks or body. Know the difference between a diamond and a stone. A woman who poses semi-nude on social media is an attention whore. Don’t give her any. Men chasing women is the exact reason why women develop a sense of entitlement.

Men should chase their ambition, dreams, and goals. If a man is successful, women will chase him. Look at matrimonial ads and see the number of women asking for “well-settled” men. They do not care about looks or personality. All they care about is whether a man is successful or not.  Women are hypergamous by nature, and it is rooted in their biology to find a man who can offer them security.

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Men should wake up and ask themselves if they are a step closer to becoming successful, instead of becoming losers who chase girls. Many men put money, time, and effort into a relationship to find out that the girl talks to them only when she needs something. Girls are self-obsessed, and look forward to serving their own interests.

Countless men drain themselves physically doing some girl’s work, take her shopping, to expensive restaurants, recharge her phone, buy her gifts, and are complete hopeless romantics. They should ask themselves the last time they spent money in the same manner on their parents. If men out there really do have that kind of money, it can easily be spent on the poor and needy.

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A man who is after a woman only for sex should know that it is shallow and superficial, and even if he does get the woman the relationship will be a total disaster, as has been seen time and again. The only time a man should chase a woman is if he feels that she can help him succeed in life, and take him closer to achieving his goals.

Look at the character of a woman, and see what virtues she has. That should be the only criteria which should arouse interest in a woman. Never get into a relationship with a woman who smokes and drinks. Stay away from a woman who reveals her body, or has a long list of male friends. Marry a woman who values religion and family.