When women say that they want to work to be independent, therein lies a difference between men’s and women’s positions in the modern society. Historically, men have been working because the society has been using them as providers and protectors, not because they wanted to be independent. The thought of being independent is fundamentally detrimental to the society’s interests.
Men work to provide for their dependents, which adds value to the society. Women want to work to be independent, which effectively negates the value. Unlike men, women want to work for themselves. After all, that’s what independence means. Most of the working and “independent” women declare shopping as their favorite hobby. That explains where their income goes. Men never said they were independent, because they never were. Nor have they cried for independence.
Most men hate their work, but do they have a choice? Who will run the society if they stopped working? One might ask oneself, who will provide for their family if men decided to be independent? If one’s answer is women, one could not be more wrong. A women would not even marry and form a family with a man who did not work to begin with. We don’t even need studies to prove this, just common sense and looking around. Thus, men don’t work because they want to be independent, they work because they have no choice.
A woman who is not interested in making a home, taking care of children, and maintaining communal ties is as useless to the society as a man who does not want to work.
How gender roles are formed
There are two important systems that shoulder every society. Economy and family. If either of the two is inexistent or fails, the society would not develop to begin with or collapse. In most basic terms, economy takes care of feeding people, and family system is necessary to increase/maintain the population. For a society to thrive the two systems must work in tandem. If economy collapses people would go hungry. In modern times it translates into difficulty in fulfilling the basic needs. If family system collapses it means reduction in marriage and birthrate and decline in population, along with loss of meaning in life and ennui in modern times.
It was not tyranny of men who chose women for the role of homemaker while choosing more “independent” life for themselves. It was so arranged because that’s what both men and women are naturally suited for. In the primitive stages of society when there were no desk jobs available and the environment was fraught with dangers, women could not afford to take on the role of provider and protector. They were best suited for domestic tasks while men worked with dangers of the environment to feed and protect their women and children. Men brought food, women prepared and served it to the family. Men built houses, women kept them in order and made them homes. Men fought wars to protect their community, women oiled communal ties. Men carried out the large scale tasks because they are endowed with the required fortitude and more strength than women. Women carried out the relatively smaller scale tasks, because that’s what they are best endowed for.
Men built and ran economies, and women built and ran families. None of the genders chose their respective tasks, it just happened with nature’s arrangement based on respective strengths of the two sexes. Societies with any other arrangement would have perished, because as mentioned above for any society to thrive the economy and family system must work in tandem, and this was the only arrangement conducive to that end.
Once the wheels of the society are set in motion in direction of growth with a given arrangement, any deviation generates negative payoffs (in the form of problems) that create pressures for the deviating agents to re-align their paths to the mutual interests of the society. That’s why we say that the society pressurized women to stick to their original role to participate in the family system, and still pressurizes men to work to participate in the economy.
The title of this article says working men are slaves. Similarly, women in their traditional role must also feel the same way, that they are domestic slaves. Let me be clear, I used this terminology only to make women understand that if they feel like slaves confined to domestic tasks, the world is not bed of roses for men either.
This so called slavery for men and women is not bad. It is what makes the society and all the comforts that we enjoy possible. Real independence is not what it seems like. In jungle is one really independent, in the society one has to fit into the designed roles. The protagonist of the film Into the Wild (based on a true story) breaks free from the society to live independently into the wild. He is barely able to feed himself and is killed by the vagaries of nature. That is what real independence is like.
Women who abandon their traditional role in the society are narcissists in the same way men who want to loaf without working are. Both are a cost to the society.
The equality movement has done great disservice to the society by making women think that they were being oppressed and made slaves of by men who enjoyed all independence. It has made women dissatisfied with their role which is essential for the society to sustain itself.
Men and women in their traditional roles are like right and left wheels of the cart. The society can not run with two right wheels or two left wheels alone. We did not need women to take over men’s roles while abandoning their own.
As more women are “liberated”, families are disappearing. White Western women are among the most liberated in the world, and white population in the West is on decline. This heralds the collapse of human civilization.