Fed Up Of Torture By Wife And In-Laws, Dr. Vimal Ended His Life

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Below Is His Suicide Note:

My wife started behaving strangely from the beginning of the marriage itself. She used to get angry and leave home anytime, sometimes in the nights also. I used to go and beg her to come back inside home. She used to tell me that she was engrossed in meditation of her Guruji and did not want to get married. Her parents married her as asked by her Guruji. I used to tell about her behaviour to her parents and her sister also but they never listened to me.

After few months of our marriage she got pregnant and I thought everything may become okay once the kid comes. But nothing changed even after that. Within few days of the child being born she became even more abusive towards me. She beat me up couple of times during our fights. Once when we went to her place and her sister tried to advice her, she picked up a knife and tried to slit her hand. She abused my parents all the time. They used to come earlier to see their grandchild sometimes, but after seeing her behaviour, they also stopped coming at my home. She used to accuse my parents of doing wrong things with their own grandchild. I wonder who someone can accuse grandparents of a small child like that.

Her superstitions, her insecurity became a threat for my family. She is deeply involved in superstitious activities and wants to involve our daughter also into that. She revers some guru who is no more alive. But she still keeps on chanting about him all the time. She says that the Guru talks to her. I don’t know how can a dead man talk to a person? What kind of thought process is that? She keeps threatening me that she will get me and my parents behind bars. Who threatens like that? I felt worse when she said that the baby is not mine but Guruji’s. That it is the Guruji who has given the child. If it is Guruji who has given the child, then why wasn’t the child born before marriage?

Her family members knew about this condition of hers. Still they married her with me and destroyed me and my family. She has traumatized me mentally to a point where I just cannot take it anymore.  I fear for my daughter. No one can live with a person with such psychic behaviour ever. I am afraid she will turn by daughter also as same. There is so much mental pressure every day. Her parents have played foul with me. They knew she is like this. They thought they would marry her anyways, whether it works or not will be the in-laws tension then. Only I know how I have lived this mental trauma since my marriage. I am tired of listening to her taunts and hence decided to end my life to find some peace. Every day I have to attend so many patients in the OPD. When I come back home in the evening, she creates hell for me. She had made my life hell. She says I use my daughter. How can a mother talk like that?

This lady and her family members have tortured me so much that I see no other option but to end my life. I just don’t know what I will do to myself. Her behavior, superstitious beliefs, quarreling nature and mental torture she inflicts on me has made it impossible for me to live with this woman. Please listen to the recordings I have done to understand what I was going through. Please save my daughter from this torture. No normal person can bear this kind of mental torture. Please save my daughter. Please save my daughter. I request my colleagues, media and society to help my family and save my child. I hope the law punishes this woman and her family so that no other person has to commit suicide like this.

 

10 Movies That You Shouldn’t Miss

Below are 10 movies that highlight the manipulative, cunning, and cruel side of women, which is a reality in everyday life.

 

1. A Mother’s Nightmare

Related imageVanessa moves fast to claim Chris for her own, taking his time away and distancing him from his family and friends. His mom, Maddie, is disturbed by their sudden relationship and when she discovers a secret of Vanessa’s and she uses all her resources to convince Chris to end it. Angered and vengeful, Vanessa accuses Chris of a heinous act that turns the school against him and sparks an online attack. When things get violent, Vanessa plans her next move and Maddie must find out Vanessa’s game before she loses her son forever.

 

2. Cyberbully

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Cyberbully follows Taylor Hillridge (Emily Osment), a teenage girl who falls victim to online bullying, and the cost it nearly takes on her and her family. When her mom gives her a computer for her birthday, Taylor is excited by the prospect of freedom and the independence of going online without her mother always looking over her shoulder. However, Taylor soon finds herself the victim of betrayal and bullying while visiting a social website, and afraid to face her peers at school, including her best friend (Kay Panabaker), she is pushed to a breaking point.

 

3. Pyaar Ka Punchnama

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Outspoken and overly critical Nishant Agarwal meets new co-worker, Charu, offers his help, assists her financially, and they become close friends. His room-mates, Rajat and Vikrant, are pleased with this outcome as they already have girlfriends in Neha and Rhea respectively. But both the relationships are not as harmonious, as Rajat feels Neha is self-centered and demanding, while Rhea appears to be withdrawn and aloof.

Also watch: Pyaar Ka Punchnama 2

 

4. Body Of Evidence

Image result for body of innocenceA millionaire is found dead of heart failure handcuffed to the bed with a home video tape of him and his lover. When cocaine is found in his system, and his will leaves $8 million to his lover, they arrest her on suspicion of murder. Her lawyer succumbs to her charms, and he begins a torrid and kinky affair with her. As new evidence turns up during trial, he begins to wonder if he’s defending a murderer.

 

 

 

5. Mean Girls

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Cady Heron, a homeschooled girl, lived in Africa for 15 years. Entering public school for the first time, she meets the “worst” of her classmates, the Plastics. She joins and eventually gets assimilated into the group of three unkind girls. But she later tries to bring them down.

Also watch: Mean Girls 2

 

 

 

6. Aitraaz

Related imageSuccessful businessman Raj Malhotra (Akshay Kumar) has everything going for him, including a lovely wife (Kareena Kapoor). Just when he thinks things can’t get any better, Sonia (Priyanka Chopra) – his ex-girlfriend, now the boss’s wife – walks back into his life – and she wants Raj. After he rejects her sexual advances, she accuses him of rape.

 

 

 

7. Odd Girl Out

Image result for odd girl outA mother and her daughter confront the intimidation of teen peer pressure and the emotionally brutalizing social rituals of high school. A well-adjusted teenager becomes depressed when she’s ostracized by her friends at school. Her mother must help her daughter regain her confidence.

 

 

 

 

8. Bad Teacher

Image result for bad teacherA lazy, incompetent middle school teacher who hates her job, her students, and her co-workers is forced to return to teaching to make enough money for breast implants after her wealthy fiancé dumps her.

 

 

 

 

9. Basic Instinct 

Image result for basic instinctA former rock star, Johnny Boz, is brutally killed during sex, and the case is assigned to detective Nick Curran of the SFPD. During the investigation, Nick meets Catherine Tramell, a crime novelist who was Boz’s girlfriend when he died. Catherine proves to be a very clever and manipulative woman, and though Nick is more or less convinced that she murdered Boz, he is unable to find any evidence.

 

 

 

10. Wild Things 

Image resultIn south Florida, a high school counselor is accused of rape by a manipulative rich girl and her trailer trash classmate. The cop on the case begins to suspect a conspiracy and dives into an elaborate and devious web of greed and betrayal to find the truth.

Also watch: Wild Things 2, Wild Things: Diamonds In The Rough, Wild Things: Foursome

 

 

Source: IMDB

Harassed Husband Lokesh Kumar’s Suicide Note

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My name is Lokesh Kumar. I am Sheetal’s husband. We got married one and a half year ago. I have taken Sheetal to her home many times. However, since last three months I haven’t been able to do so as my sister-in-law was pregnant and we had to go to hospital regularly. All these days, my in-laws kept scolding me for not taking Sheetal to their place.

My mother was alone at home and there was no one to take care of things. Even then my mother never asked Sheetal to do any household work. Sheetal’s mother kept interfering in our family, asking her not to help in any household work and make my old age mother do everything. I kept telling my wife I have just got a new job, and that I will take her to her home as soon as I get my salary. But she never listened to me.

Her mother Kamlesh, her father, her brother along with neighbours came at my home, beat me up black and blue, and she went away with them leaving behind my seven month old son. Sheetal never loved her kid. She never loved her child as a mother. She was not bothered about it. The reason for it is she always wanted a lavish life style, loved only money. She never loved me, though I loved her like mad. She did whatever her mother asked her to do. Today, when I went at their place to bring her back, her mother and father thrashed me, beat me up in front of everyone, asked me to divorce her.

Sheetal herself declared until your mother and father bow down at my knees, plead and beg in front of me, I will not come back. Also, you will not stay with your parents if you want me to come back. My parents never ill treated or misbehaved with her. I wanted to give my son a beautiful future. I wanted to keep my family happy.

Sheetal, you have killed everything in my life. I did everything for you, you should have at least tried to understand me. I am ending my life today. You and your mom wanted to harass me by taking my son away from me, but I won’t let you do that. I am taking my life. I never did anything wrong, but still I am being forced to end my life.

Even before taking this extreme step, I called Sheetal, her mother, her father, her brother to talk to her once. But they all said, Sheetal is dead for you, you also die. I never wanted to end my life, but my mother-in-law forced me to. Sorry mummy papa, I couldn’t be a good son and take care of you all. Please forgive me. I have never consumed alcohol in my life, but today I am drinking because I have gone mad. My mother in law has turned me mad. Sheetal you never loved me or my child. Mummy Papa I love you.

True Gender Equality Is When Both Men And Women Have A Voice

Excerpt from a man’s marital life:

I tried everything possible to make my marriage work for three and a half years. In that duration, she left me multiple times after bitter and ugly fights, where she abused me, my family (even though they lived separately) and everything that was about me. She was extremely controlling, possessive and I often felt like a slave. I was abused not only verbally but physically too. She used to throw fits on tiniest issues – as irrelevant as – why did you not hold my hand in the mall? And then I had to explain. I was tired of making up every time. She used to say sorry and come back and expected me to forget everything as if nothing happened. When she left me this time, breaking every possible object in my home, I decided I couldn’t take it anymore. I thought of filing for divorce. In my mind, a divorce was something as simple as filing a document in the court and the only way to get away from this abusive marriage. Little did I know that the real hell, worse than what I was currently in, would start only after I filed DIVORCE…

A hell where me and my family were falsely charged of cruelty under section 498A of IPC ….
A hell where I was dragged and pushed inside a police van, treated like a hardcore criminal, kept on watch under their instructions and not allowed to say a thing ….
A hell where my mother suffered a heart attack ….
A hell right here on earth …. Just because I filed for Divorce.

94% Pickpockets Caught In Delhi Metro Are Women

According to this report by The Times Of India, 94% pickpockets caught in Delhi metro are women. It is not surprising, but in today’s world media has demonized men to the point where we attach all negative aspects of society to men, whereas that is far from the truth. In reality, it is quite the opposite.

Below are some testimonies:

A girl picked up my bag and walked away

 I was returning from a shopping trip in GK, and I took the Metro because I wanted to avoid traffic. I was in the pink coach and had put my shopping bag on the floor. A girl in formals was getting off at Patel Chowk, and she picked my bag up and started walking ahead! When I shouted after her that it was my bag, she started to walk faster. I also got off the Metro and ran after her, and told the guards. When the guards caught her, she casually said, “Sorry, I didn’t realize I had picked up the wrong bag,” and just walked away.
 – Sakshi Tiwari, medical student

A chatty pickpocket

I have this habit of starting a conversation with anyone in the Metro. I get bored, and I can’t pretend to be busy with my phone. Once, in the ladies’ compartment, this girl smiled at me and I returned her smile. Then she asked me where I was going, and this is how we started talking to each other. I thought she was very sweet. She boarded at Yamuna Bank, and was with me till Mandi House. In this span of ten minutes, she took my wallet. She was behind me when I was getting off at Mandi House. It was crowded and I could feel a hand on my back. When I turned around, she simply said sorry and smiled. When I came out and took an auto, I discovered that I didn’t have my wallet. Since then, I either try to stand in such a way that no one is behind me, or if it’s too crowded, I keep checking my bag and wallet.
– Nivedita Batra, 17, student

Asli waali jeb kat gayi

I usually go in the pink compartment. Not because it is safer or something, but because while returning in the evening, the Metro gets so crowded that boarding the general compartment only means inviting inappropriate touches. Recently, when I was at Rajeev Chowk station, I realized that my purse wasn’t in my bag. When I started looking for it, I was shocked to see that my bag had a cut. I don’t even remember how or when it happened. It was literally jeb katna. The ladies’ compartment was so crowded that everyone was stepping on each other. All I remember is two-three girls leaning on me, and it was so crowded that despite asking them to move, they couldn’t. I think it was they who cut my bag.
– Priyanka Singh, 23, web developer.

I lost my month’s salary

I’m afraid of crowds ever since I lost an entire month’s salary. Since I have a part-time job, I don’t get paid through cheque, but cash. I was carrying 8,000, and I thought it would be safe to be in the women’s compartment to avoid any untoward incident. I never realized when someone cut my bag and not a single penny was left. I don’t understand how these pickpockets find out where we keep the money. My only mistake was that I was excitedly telling my friend that we’d party with this salary.
– Neha Bharadwaj, 24, content writer

 

 

Men Asked To Give Up Seats For Women Reveals Everyday Sexism Faced By Men

If women want equality, and according to feminists both men and women are equal, then why do men have to give up seats for women? Why are seats reserved for women on DTC buses and in metros? Women’s sense of entitlement knows no bounds. Women want equality but they do not want to let go of their privileges, and equality is only applicable when it works in women’s favor.

The following is a transcript by a man who was travelling from Delhi to Pune. When a girl asked him to give up his lower berth and he refused, she threatened to call female helpline. She then complained to the TTE, below is their conversation:

TTE: Beta aap seat exchange kar lo madam se. Inhe lower berth chahiye. (You need to exchange your seat with the lady. She wants lower berth)

Me (perplexed): Lekin lower berth meri seat hai. Aap ticket pe seat number dekhiye. (The lower berth is mine. Please check the ticket again).

TTE: Vo mujhe maloom hai. Madam ko upar jane me dikkat hogi to aap apni seat inhe de dijiye. (I am aware of that. She might have trouble climbing up so its better you give your seat to her)

Me: Sorry, aap kisi aur lower berth vale se puch lo. (Sorry, can you ask someone else for the lower seat?)

Girl: Tumhe ek baar me samajh me nahi aata kya? Behre ho? (Are you deaf? Cannot you listen in one go?)

Me: Excuse me, but aap zara tameez se baat kariye. (Excuse me, but you need to check your tone)

TTE: Sahi bol rahin hain madam. Chaliye aap upar shift ho jaiye. (She is right. You need to exchange your seat now)

Me: Sorry Sir, mai bohot izzat se bat kar raha hu lekin mai upar nahi jaunga. (Sorry Sir, I am being as polite as I can but this is not happening. Not today.)

Girl: Mere legs me sprain hai. Itna bhi nahi samajh aata tujhe k mai upar nahi chadh paungi. (I have a sprain in my legs. Can’t you see that I wont be able to climb to the upper berth?)

Me: Excuse me, but I saw you enter the coach with your luggage all by yourself. You even tip-toed to put your stuff on the upper berth. Don’t make stories.

Some stranger: RPF (Railway Protection Force) me phone laga k utarvaiye iss ladke ko. Tameez nahi hai kaise baat krte hain ladkiyon se. (Someone call RPF and get this guy out of the train. He doesn’t even have manners to talk to a girl)

Some other stranger: Dikhta nahi akeli ladki hai. Itna samaan hai uske paas. (Can’t you see she is alone? She is carrying so much luggage)

Me: Samaan le kar upar nahi chadhna hai inhe. Aap kahe to mai niche apne saman ki jagah inka rakh leta hu. (She doesn’t need to climb with the luggage. She can keep it right here and I will move mine somewhere else)

Girl: I am going to call the female helpline right now. (She was seconded by many onlookers)

Me: Aapko jo karna hai kariye. (I turned towards the TTE) (Do whatever you wish to)

Me: Aur Sir aap. Mere father railways me hain. Senior Audit Officer. Aap agle station pe apne supervisor se baat kar lijiyega. Its illegal to force any passenger to leave their seat without any solid ground. Thank you. (And you Sir, my father is a Senior Audit Officer with the Railways. You will need to talk to your supervisor at the next stop. Its illegal to force any passenger to leave their seat without any solid ground. Thank you.

The TTE soon backed off after learning that Kanishk’s father is a Senior Audit Officer with the railways.

Also read: Men Are Second-Class Travelers On DTC Buses

Documentary: Martyrs Of Marriage

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Below is the trailer of Deepika Bhardwaj’s documentary ‘Martyrs Of Marriage’, addressing the issues of false cases of dowry against men, a problem which has destroyed not only men’s lives but their entire families. It is used as a tool by women to either extract money or for revenge. Even children are not spared when it comes to fabricated allegations.

 

The following is Deepika Bhardwaj’s article titled I Am A Woman, But Here Is Why I Chose To Fight For Men

“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor” -Desmond Tutu

Seeing my uncles leave their parents and set up separate homes no matter how much they loved their parents and wanted to keep them along was normal for me as a young girl. I never bothered to think about it. Though I saw the pain in the eyes of these old and ailing parents, I thought that it was probably more important for a man to listen to his wife than to those who had brought him up in this world, taught him how to walk, and made him the man he is today. I grew up and saw a few of these men completely snapped from family ties, but once again I never bothered to inquire much.

Three years ago, I was forced to THINK.

A very dear friend of mine was on the brink of a divorce a year after his marriage and two months after his parents had started living with the couple. His wife gave him two options: leave his parents forever or divorce with a huge sum. He chose the latter. I still remember endless drives where he spoke less and cried more for that decision. He never wanted to break his marriage but was forced to. He was also forced to pay a price that was worth his and his parents’ life’s savings. This time, though I did wonder to myself why he was paying so much, I did not get too much into the reasons.

Two years ago, I was forced to ACT.

It happened again, this time very close to me. A young boy (my cousin), who had fallen in love with the “innocence” of this girl, was cheatedand cheated beyond explanation. She was a dream to him; he was a tissue for her. He married her to make a home; she married him for society’s tag. She loved another man, and this marriage was just part of the plan! He felt humiliated. She felt victorious. He did not want her to go. She wanted a divorce. He consented to an amicable separation. She cried, DOWRY! My cousin was given two choices: divorce with a huge sum or a dowry case and his family behind bars!

I accompanied my cousin to meet a retired judge and seek guidance. There had been no dowry demand and the girl was lying. “Truth has no significance,” the judge said. “As a husband, you can do nothing to save you and your family if she wants to file a dowry case. It doesn’t matter if you are right or she is wrong. What she says is right.” I was enraged. I told him that we had evidence! He laughed, saying, “A woman isn’t punished for adultery in this country. However, she can file endless false cases against you, get you arrested under 498A, and make you run around courts for years until you satisfy her demands. She’s a woman.”

My cousin was also extorted. I saw his family’s trauma and his transition from a cheerful boy to a shattered man. I still can’t forget his screams. That’s when I understood why my friend had paid, why my cousin had paid, and why men compromise.

After my cousin’s case, suddenly I saw it happening everywhere. Or perhaps what I had ignored for years was now staring me in the face. I started researching dowry cases and realized that what the media had told me wasn’t the only truth. The deeper I went, the uglier the reality was behind these cases. The other side of 498A left me utterly confused as a woman: How can I use a law when I am wrong? How can it allow me to play with anyone’s life? How can it be used as a weapon? How can “she” always be right and he “always” be wrong? How can it allow a woman to get away with so many lies? One night I stumbled upon a suicide video of Syed Ahmed Makhdoom, in which he described false 498A and his ordeal as the reason behind his death. It changed my life.

I could no longer ignore. I could no longer be neutral and side with the oppressor. That’s when I decided to raise my voice against the misuse of laws by women and fight for those who have never been considered victims: men.

Increasingly, men in India are becoming victims of systematic abuse through gender-biased laws. Laws in which a man’s innocence doesn’t matter, where he is presumed guilty, and where a mere verbal accusation by a woman makes him a puppet in the hands of the police and judiciary for years to come. Laws in which he is humiliated, abused, extorted, and pushed to the brink for being a man!

In the past two years, I have come across thousands of these casescases where broken marriages have turned into dowry cases, failed affairs have turned into rape cases, appraisal rejections have turned into sexual harassment cases, property disputes have turned into outraging modesty, and street fights have turned into molestationjust because a woman now has the power to “feel” like a victim any way she wants and her words are enough to nail a man.

The misuse of laws isn’t the only issue. Another problem is the absolute apathy toward the problems of men. There is no law in India that recognizes violence toward men by his spouse/partner. There is no law in India to analyze the abuse of men by women. There is no law in India that clocks murders/burnings/suicides of married men by their wives or in-laws (like dowry deaths of women). India’s domestic violence actwhich recognizes emotional, economical, physical, and sexual violence – doesn’t accept men as the victims of any of this violence. Despite the fact that the number of men committing suicide in India is twice the number of women, there is not a single helpline dedicated to men. And forget about having any laws for married men; if a married man who is abused uses his only optiondivorcehe can rest assured that his wife will launch a dozen similar cases against him. So from being a victim he becomes an accused!

Women’s right activists often argue with me that the number of abused men is much lower. I ask, When there is no law to assess their abuse, how can there be numbers? Moreover, numbers is not my game, nor is holding placards with statistics my bread and butter. My fight is against the injustice toward men in the name of justice toward women – even if it’s for just one man. I wish to help every man who is a victim of this systematic abuse and hope to fight until justice stops looking through the eyes of gender.